Bachelorette Etiquette Question

I've never heard of giving a gift for a bachelorette party. The only time I'm aware of giving a gift is at like rehearsal where the bridal party is normally give thank you gifts for participating in the wedding.

I would thank and gift the hostess. If you had anyone pay any of your expenses, a handwritten thank you should be sent. If everyone paid their own way including yourself, then only the hostess/main person(s) planning should receive a thank you (and IMO a thank you gift).
When in doubt, always acknowledge someone’s efforts made in your honor with a minimum of a handwritten thank you.

I personally had some gifts for my attendees but that’s cause there were only three haha

A thank you card from the bride to the hostess is sufficient

A thank you card is fine, otherwise you could be buying many gifts depending on the guest count.

A thank you gift for the host is always a good idea. And you can’t go wrong thanking the attendees, verbally even, for faking the time out of their schedules to celebrate with you. The run up to weddings can get chaotic and expensive for guests as well as couple!

Def. have a thank you gift for the host! If you want to have gift bags for your party members, then that's more than okay! I'm from the south, so it's customary for the bride or maid of honor to have gift bags for the bridal party members!

I would def. add a little extra to the maid of honor's gift just because she is the one hosting it. If any of your bridal party gives you a gift at the bachelorette party and/or paid for your expenses, then def. send them an extra thank you card as well!

A thank you card is sufficient. I have never been to a bachelorette party, including my own, where the bride gave the attendees gifts.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the info! Initially expenses were going to be paid for and someone dropped out so I offered to pay instead of increasing everyone else’s tab! I didn’t think that would be fair. I guess I’ll have to see what she planned to do closer to the date. Then plan accordingly. I’ll definitely get her a gift then and at a minimum write thank you cards.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! Seems like it’s a gift for the host and thank you cards for the rest. Expenses are definitely adding up quickly! Never realized how expensive a wedding was! All my friends before me eloped or had very intimate weddings (25 or less). I’m one of the older girls in my friend group. Everyone else is just starting to get engaged!

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That's sweet of you to do that! I think that's a great plan!

I was the MOH for my cousin and made gift bags for each of the girls to take when they left. Each bag contained mini bottles of champagne or rosé, suggestively shaped lipsticks, compact mirrors that were on theme with the party (“Shine Bright Like A Diamond”), nail polish + travel nail polish remover, hangover recovery pills, chocolates and some fun little add ins from Lover’s Lane like tingling body balm. Each girl loved it and I got huge compliments on everything! One of the girls was in her mid 30’s with many bach parties under her belt and said she had never gotten a gift bag before and love it.


I also did small gifts for each winner of the games we played throughout the night and that was a hit as well! Not necessary but I think it made it extra special since no one was expecting it.