bachelor party fears

Nope, I trusted my hubby and his friends, as he trusted me. No fears, no worries

A little. But I know my FH, he isn't going to do anything that will jeopardize his relationship with me. I don't mind if they go see strippers, etc.. But I know he isn't going to hookup with one. 1. its not his style, 2. he choose to marry me.

What exactly is your fear?

Just know that if he goes to a strip club, they will tear his boxers off and most have him crawl around on the stage, and ride him like a horse... he most likely will be whipped with a belt.... so don't be surprised if he comes home with no boxers on.

Im going to be honest, I dread it too. I wont let him know that though. I was ok with it until I heard a story straight from the horses mouth(the guy that was getting married) He said the stripper had "protection" and put it on him and the deed was done. I thought that NEVER actually happened, but I guess it does. Disgusting. He ended up divorced.

I know and trust my FH, its just his fratnerity brothers i dont trust, liquor+frat brother+strippers=trouble. but we spoke this morning about it and like you guys said he trusts me and i trust him, i was just wondering if anyone had a worry or fear in them when it came to the bachelor party, i know he would not jeopardize our relationship, so i'm not worried about that.

My FH is the only man I've ever trusted so much. We talked about our plans and we are both at peace with them.

There is no sex in the strip clubs.... at least none of the ones I have been to... the private rooms have video cameras so the bouncers can keep an eye on the girls the whole time. If there was sex, I'm guessing it was a stripper hired to come to a private home... then there is no telling what is off limits (if anything)

Not anymore... i castrated him :o)

Well, Amber he made that choice. She didn't rape him. He could have walked away and obviously he didn't care too much about his marriage. If you trust him and realize it's just a night out with the boys being silly then there's no need to worry. I don't know that any of us are really excited about the prospect of our guys watching dancers in all of their glory on a stage but he's not really going for that, he's going out with his buddies, doing guy things and if his friends are good, they won't force him or egg him into anything that would jeopardize your relationship.

I have the same problem. I trust FH for sure. But he has a HUGE jealousy problem and wants me to have a 'stay in' party with my lady friends. I think it is totally unreasonable for him to get to go to strippers and me not allowed to leave the house. We are getting pre-marital counseling btw, just to smooth out issues like this. I would definitely have a problem with anybody taking his boxers of though. *sigh* It's probably a good thing he'll be in Oklahoma City and I'll be traveling in the opposite direction for my bachelorette party. That way we can't crash each other's parties. LOL

ROFLMAO @ S2B Mrs. Murphey. That solves that problem.

I'm not concerned, I trust my FH. FH is disgusted by strip clubs and strippers as are most of his friends, so he has made it clear that they aren't welcome at his bach party.

@ Bella My sisters NEW BOYFRIEND lol. She's such a mess. But it does happen. Im not too worried because the guys going to his BP are all married with kids, and my brother will be there as a spy ;-)

Hahahahahahaha s2b mrs murphey!!! Thats a way to have no worries!

Thanks guys you have helped alot, and i guess a better word for this is dread it opposed to fear it!!

I trust FH 1000% and I don't worry about his bach party - he wants to go out on the boat with his buddies.

But FH is a GM in another wedding and they have a couple of single friends who ruin it for everyone bc they think it's funny to cause trouble at the expense of others. Grr.

Ok to be serious i think for most women it is probably back there in their head... however... turtle's bach party will be a fishing retreat in the middle of nowhere!!! i will make sure its in the middle of nowhere! :o)

I of course worry but I know that he would not do anything to jepordize our relationship. BUt I think if you are worried he will cheat you are worrying about the wrong time and place. Cheaters do not want to get caught so they would never do it at a bachelor party with tons of witnesses!

Anna makes a good point with the single friends causing trouble. I think that's what I fear the most. FH's friends and family are mostly single guys and they love to egg him on. So I can totally see them getting him alone and getting him into an inappropriate situation. We have talked about this at length though. He knows my fears and we both know that we love and trust one another, and that neither of us will do anything to lose the love and respect that we've worked so hard to build.

We are having a joint party. I think it is going to be a very large group of friends going to Benihana's. Neither of us are big drinkers and he is disgusted by strippers. He may also take the boat out with his brothers for a fishing day and I may do a spa day.