Bachelor Party Etiquette

$500 fucking dollars per person? 14 people? a $7,000 bachelor party? The fuck?

It is but as well your fh should have thought to ask. That's a lot of money $7k btw!

This is outrageous. What happened to dinner, a sports event or a club? I said this in another post. People often cannot afford others' weddings!

I am curious where they went. And what they ate, drank and did for $7k.

The groom and his circle of friends are in a pretty well off circle. And from my understanding the house was essentially like a mansion on a lake with a boat.... that is expensive. So to most of the guys $500 was nothing. My FH though was in a transition between jobs at the time and was really low on funds for anything. I just think that's a huge chunk of money to expect someone to pay for a bachelor party... even if they do know ahead of time

I've spent more then that with a similar amount of people at a bachelorette party. I was informed of price before hand though.

Absolutely should have been disclosed before hand. That's a big chunk of cash for a party.

He should have been told before hand. I'd be so pissed.

If no one told me the cost outright, I would have asked before going, especially if money is tight. $500 does seem outrageous though.

They should have told him, but he also should have asked. Typically if anyone gets a free weekend away it's only the groom. I wouldn't have expect for the others to pay his way.

Did they not discuss price before hand? My FH has done Vegas bach parties and its a $3k+ trip each time but he was well aware of the costs before saying yes

Outrageous, yes. But he is and adult and should have asked. I've turned down bachelorette parties before due to cost.

Wow, yes, all of that should have been discussed PRIOR!!

FH's guys paid something like $300 each for a weekend in montreal, but it was absolutely discussed beforehand. It was wrong of them not to.

That's insane!

We are doing something similar for mine and its like $300 each for two nights lodging and meals. $500 seems a bit steep but for a weekend away it's not totally ridiculous (especially if they were covering the groom). but they should have communicated that before. My MOH told everyone the price upfront so people could decide whether it was in their budget.

That is beyond outrageous. As PP's said, he really should have asked and he could have declined the invitation. That being said, I'm sure he heard cabin in Michigan, and never dreamed it would be that expensive. I am actually writing this post from my family's cottage in Michigan. Evidently, I need to rent this baby out!

I think $500 is a lot if:

You are between jobs

You don't know/ask the amount

It's split between 14 people

Maybe there was a security deposit figured in.

As someone from Michigan whose looking for houses to rent for a mini-honeymoon that is crazy, but not unheard of. Up north, lake life is actually very high class and expensive. Yes, your FH should've asked, but they definitely should have told him beforehand and made sure. My FH did a hotel, golfing, brewery tour, tubing type deal in Northern Michigan which is a pretty lowkey bachelor party, but even him and his best man made sure it was in everyone's price range before they confirmed ANYTHING! It's just respectful and we all know what it means to assume

I'm sorry your FH is in this position though! It sucks

That seems like waaaay too much money.

And yeah, they should have been upfront with the cost, that's something you tell a person BEFORE...