Bachalorette Party Invite Etiquette

I am not inviting my FMIL to mine. To the shower, yes. To a bachelorette party where I know what kinds of things my friends will plan, absolutely not! I think that both she and I would be uncomfortable. I think with your cousins, it is up to you, but don't feel like you have to invite anyone.

I'm inviting my FSIL who is close to my age and that's it from his side. Definitely not my FMIL.

I didn't invite any relatives to mine, except my sister. They were all invited to the shower but the bachelorette, in my opinion, is for girlfriends. (Even though my bachelorette was not raunchy at all.)

I invited bridesmaids and a couple other close friends. I'm close to my cousins but I still didn't invite them. We'll party together at the shower. I see Bachelorette as a party with close friends. My FMIL wants to be invited. She has mentioned it a couple times after drinking a few too many. She told FH to include his dad in the bachelor party, which he wants to. But I'm sure now she'll be complaining behind my back that she is alone that night. Her daughters are bridesmaids, so they are coming.

We invited friends and bridal party to the bachelorette party but no family unless they were in the bridal party. To the shower yes but not To the bachelorette party

My FMIL would love to come to mine. Not sure if I want her to though as she can drink anyone under the table.

Would you be comfortable going out on the town, getting drunk and partying with your cousins, FMIL or SIL? If so then invite them. If not then no. Some people just do a spa day which I would see inviting them too but I could not see my FMIL going to get tattoo and drink out of penis straws with us....

I'm lucky my mom has no interest in this type of thing, if I invited her it would be harder not to invite FMIL

My FMIL asked if moms were invited to my bachelorette. I told her no, that I didn't think it would be comfortable for her, me, or my FSIL if she attended. I also let her know that my mom wasn't invited either, so that she knew it wasn't a matter of me just excluding her. She was fine with that.

Marissa - Same here! lol

My mother is okay with not going and FSIL is a member of the bridal party, so she'll be coming. My dad is a (very recently) recovering alcoholic, so FH will not be inviting him to the bachelor party out of respect for his recovery and not wanting to put him in tempting circumstances. One of my aunts and a couple of cousins made comments as if they expected to be invited to my bachelorette party, but they aren't - there simply is not enough room for them in the plans (literally). I started to get anxiety about offending them, but I had to take a step back and realize that I can't make everyone happy. My MOH has offered to take any heat if anyone is offended that they didn't get an invite, which I really appreciate. There will always be someone who is offended or hurt because people take weddings so personally!

Thanks everyone for your responses. I'm not even really having a raunchy party, I just don't feel like myself or relaxed around certain people and I want to be able to just have fun and not worry about what people think about me! I think I will just have my sisters and close friends.

FMIL wants to come to Miami with us... I declined lol. I'd probably let her come if we were doing it local.

No one from his size is invited to my bach. Just my girls. The shower is a different story

It doesn't hurt to invite them because they may not show up. it also depends on what kind of shindig you're having. if it's raunchy and inappropriate then maybe FMIL wouldn't even want to go. talk to her about it. communication is going to help you here.

A bachelorette / bachelor party is for the brides'/grooms' closest friends. Parents should not be involved. In my opinion, of course.

No mothers...this is a friend only zone for me!:-)

Knowing my BMs, I doubt my bachelorette will be in-law appropriate. There's likely to be day drinking and such.

I think you invite whoever you want to the bachelorette party! I've seen people include ONLY their wedding party, and others invite tons of friends and family. If you're having a bridal shower or another event you can invite them to that. Maybe they won't feel as left out or peeved by not being invited to the bachelorette party.

Nope. You don't HAVE to invite anyone. I knew if I started inviting extra friends/family I would eventually upset someone, and I just didn't want the drama. So it was just me and the girls in my wedding, and it was a blast!