Baby shower registry on invite vs registry on wedding invite

You can put registry information on a bridal shower invitation, same as you would for a baby shower invitation. If you do not have a website, and need to include your registry information with your wedding invitation, then you can include a small details card (size of a business card) that says something like "although your presence is more important than presents, If you would like to get the Bride and Groom a gift, they are registered at (insert registry)." I mean, wedding websites didn't always exist....so once upon a time people included their registry on their wedding invitation somehow.

The difference to me is that a shower is a hosted event. You typically don't host your own showers because then you're asking for gifts for yourself. Someone hosting a shower in your honor is different. For your wedding, it's not to be assumed that people will bring you gifts. I would feel extremely tacky saying "come celebrate our marriage... oh and bring me a present!"

When you send out any type of shower invites (baby or bridal) you can include registry information on them. As PP mentioned, a shower is a hosted event where people are expected to bring gifts. Now I'm not sure if you're having a shower or not, but because I am, I will not include registry information in my invitation suites. Plus, FH and I would prefer cash or check if people are gracious enough to give us a gift anyway

A baby shower is a gift giving event, a wedding is not. The purpose of your wedding isn’t to receive gifts, while that’s the whole point of a shower. If someone offers to host a bridal or couples shower for you, just like a baby shower, the registry would be included in the invitation. Including it in the wedding invitation is basically saving “we hope that you can come to our wedding, but before you even decide, here is where you can find a list of gifts we want.”

Because a shower (baby or wedding) is a gift giving event. Technically giving a gift at a wedding is optional and therefore asking for gifts is just ick.

I support you Katie with wanting/needing to put your registry on the invite, and disagree that it is rude or 'gift-grabby'. While it's nice to in theory say. 'The honor of your presence is enough' we've all seen many brides and grooms upset because x attendee didn't give a gift. It's understanding of most guests that a gift will be anticipated if they attend, so why not help them find your registry? If you don't do a details card, many invites have the option to include details on the back of the main card. You could include your registry and website information there. Easily accessible but not up front and center for the sake of etiquette. For the sake of your guests though, do ensure your registry has a variety of price points.

It's personal preference and know your crowd to me. I agree with Danielle though - before the internet, people sent the registry information in the invitation. I've gotten several this way and have taken no offense. I did the same on mine with a note that said if they wanted to participate in the time honored tradition of gift giving, here's where we are registered but we'd really just like everyone to attend the wedding. I'm not doing a wedding website nor am I expecting everyone to spread my information by word of mouth.

I have no website and did not list it on my invite. I don't think it used to be listed before the internet either, I think it was, appropriately, word of mouth. It was listed on my shower invite as my MOH chose to do so....so most of the ladies know the registry info anyway. I have had 3 or 4 other people ask me about registry info and I'll certainly let them know at that point. But literally the only way to hear anything about my registry is hearing about it/asking about it. And I think that's how it should be. Just my opinion, though. I also hate the thought of people stressing out over getting me gifts. I'd rather they just come to the wedding and enjoy time with us. I only created registries in the first place because MOH was insistent on a shower.

Traditionally the wedding registry is for the bridal shower, meant to shower you with gifts like a baby shower. The registry info goes in the invite for the bridal shower not the wedding invite. If someone outside of the bridal shower would like to get you a gift they would follow your wedding website. If you don't have a wedding website then they will just reach out to you and ask if you are registered anywhere. There has also been a shift at weddings over the years where now it is much more common to bring a card with cash/check to a wedding than an actual physical gift.

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THIS.

Keywords here:

Baby SHOWER invitation

Wedding SHOWER invitation

Wedding invitation

You can include registry information in the first two. Not the third because the third is an event and not a shower.

As for your comment about "word of mouth" and social media - word of mouth literally means speaking to people. Like face to face or over the phone. Not social media. So if people ask if you are registered you say yes, at ___ and/ or ___. We had plenty of people call us and ask. We never posted on social media about where we are registered.

The registry should be on bridal shower invites

You put the registry on the bridal shower or couples shower invite too. Just not the wedding invite. I guess to me, a "shower" is meant to shower the new parents or new bride. The wedding is a hosted event for guests for the sole purpose to celebrate the marriage, not for gifts. Gifts can be brought, but aren't required like they are for a shower.

View Quoted Comment Very true. I love this response. Thank you

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I will make sure to let my moh know

View Quoted Comment I had never thought about it as event vs shower ! Thanks

View Quoted Comment Very true. Have you seen the wedding sites that just say “we accept money”. I would feel so awkward

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t take offense either but I was curious about true etiquette

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Omg that's so tacky hahah. I mean honeymoon funds are becoming more of a thing now too and I guess I would be less put off by that than people just saying we want money. Lol I also just give cash at the wedding and a card. If I am a bridesmaid and had already gotten a shower gift I have given a smaller gift rather than money like a nice photo album and note saying it's for anything they wish! Wedding photos, honeymoons, travel pictures, future pets, future babies