Savvy August 2018

Baby on honeymoon

A, on December 7, 2017 at 11:13 AM Posted in Honeymoon

My baby girl is 17 months now and she'll be 2 years old by the time the wedding comes I was wondering if anyone is in the same situation as me and what would they do I'm already having anxiety thinking of leaving her behind I really don't want to o rather not have a honeymoon if I can't bring her what will other mothers soon to be married will do ?



  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·

    It's not a honeymoon if you bring your kids.

    It's a family vacation. Which is totally cool if that's what both of you want! You also don't have to take a honeymoon at all, but it's totally up to you and your FH.

  • Amber
    Devoted April 2019
    Amber ·

    I agree with Lindsey.

    If you take your baby, it's not a honeymoon. Again, there is nothing wrong with that. Have you discussed it with your FH?

    You could always push back your honeymoon and take it sometime after the wedding when you'd be more comfortable leaving her with someone.

  • Jessica
    Beginner May 2018
    Jessica ·

    My son is 6 months now and will be almost a year when we get married. We're pushing our honeymoon back a little later so we feel okay about leaving him since I'm breastfeeding. I'd rather wait and have a honeymoon were we can enjoy each other without the kiddos and when I feel better about leaving him. It will also give us a little more time to save up more money for the trip since babies and weddings are both expensive!!!

  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
    Mrs. Sponge ·

    The first time I left my son with my mom overnight at first I had no idea what to do with myself. I literally had to idea how to be myself anymore or what to do without having to care for him. It was so good for me though. FH and I have decided that we will take a honeymoon but after that we will only do weekends away without the kids, vacations will be taken with the family. We realize that time away from the kids is good but don't want to take full vacations without them. It will be good for both your daughter to have time away from each other, and its good for you and your FH.

  • Staci
    Super February 2018
    Staci ·

    Fh and I have a 2yo son. We have never left him with anyone overnight due to having no family in the same state. We are taking a honeymoon but only 4 days. My parents are watching our son at our house. Am I nervous.. yes but I am also really excited about having some relaxing and alone time with FH! Find someone you and your child are comfortable with. I'm sure it's harder on us to leave.

  • Everlong323
    Beginner March 2018
    Everlong323 ·

    Do a test run with someone you think could watch the toddler during your honeymoon. Try it out for a night or two. Most kids adapt pretty quickly. I'm sure she won't even notice your're gone.

  • Mrs. DeNigris
    VIP October 2017
    Mrs. DeNigris ·

    We left our then 15 month old with my parents. She had an absolute blast and barely knew we were gone. I know they really enjoyed that time with her, and I enjoyed the time with my new husband.

  • Ashley
    VIP May 2018
    Ashley ·

    Your parents if FH's parents would love to have that 1 on 1 time with your child! Take advantage of it

  • Wendy  Montebello
    Wendy Montebello ·

    My daughter was 6 months and we brought here on our honeymoon! You might want to consider a cruise. Many offer camps at 2 and it could give you some alone time as well. My daughter went to kids camp at night on our honeymoon. Many have babysitting services in a group setting. She was asleep and we had a great time!

  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
    ambrok ·

    Some just go somewhere close for a couple of nights without their child n then plan a large vacation for 5-10 yrs out...when they child is older/more comfortable leaving them for a long period of time. As far as calling it a family vacation vs honeymoon...who cares, UO but I'd still call the mini getaway a honeymoon or mini-moon.

  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
    FutureMrs.L ·

    2 years old is a toddler, not a baby. I'm not taking my son on my honeymoon, not a chance. When he was a baby he spent time at my mom's, he loved it, still does. I trust my parents to watch him.

    As a PP mentioned, try a night or two in the meantime, see how it goes. Even as parents we need "us" time. It's important that we stay connected to each other, Even with a child. It's ok to have "me" time. Nothing wrong with that.

  • Sos0033
    VIP September 2017
    Sos0033 ·

    If you’d rather not have a honeymoon if you can’t bring her, then don’t go on a honeymoon. There’s no law saying you have to. I do think it’s good though for kids to spend some time away from mom and dad, especially since this isn’t an infant we’re talking about.

  • Rachel
    Savvy June 2019
    Rachel ·

    If you and your spouse want a honeymoon, do not take the child. If you have someone behind that can babysit, just leave your child at home. If it really worries you though, you can either just take a family vacation, or you do not HAVE to do a honeymoon if you aren't comfortable.

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