Baby fever... only married for 7 months

People all have different timelines. I would talk to your husband and see where he stands on it. There is no "right" or "wrong" time to have a baby. We were originally going to wait until I finished grad school, but I have 2.5 years left and we've been talking about starting to try relatively soon.

There is definitely no right or wrong way and people can't make that decision for you. When my husband and I started planning for a baby, the only thing for us that had to happen was me finish grad school. I ended up getting pregnant 3 months after getting my master's degree (before we were married) and it was literally the best thing that has ever happened to me. I wouldn't change it for the world! Planning to conceive baby #2 towards the end of the year

Definitely speak to your husband about this on a very serious level. Talk about finances, debts, income while you’re on leave or not working during that time. Lots of important factors here.
I have baby fever just as much (they are the gosh darn cutest things)!
BUT! Enjoy your married life! Everyone has different timelines and things can change!

We were planning to start a family as soon as we get married. However upon discussion, we realized it would be better to wait a year or so, that way my debts are more paid off and we’re in a better financial state. FH wants me to be able to be a stay at home mom for a little bit instead of going back to work after leave.
Good luck to you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you ! This was good to hear. We are also working hard at getting out of debt and saving for a house. And while we would love to be parents we definitely want to be a good position to welcome them into this world.

It's a personal choice. My husband wanted to have children when we met, but I wanted to wait until we got married so as soon as we got married we started trying to have a baby. I'm currently pregnant with our first child and she is due May 1st. We also recently bought our first house. Unfortunately because of Covid I lost my job back in May, but I probably would've quit working there 1. because it would be a very long commute from where we live and 2. we don't want to put our daughter in daycare because a good portion of my income would have just been going to daycare which kind of would have made me working pointless. One major deciding factor for us was my age. My mom was in her early thirties when she found out she had uterine cancer which required her to have a full hysterectomy and in the event the same thing would happen to me I didn't want to put off having children since I'm currently 27 and we would like at least three children.

Yeah I do. I'm definitely going to not worry about contraception within a month after our wedding lol

View Quoted Comment Just my 2 cents: If you are young enough to wait, wait. Manage your finances, and get out of debt first. I have friends who has debts and have kids. Years later they are still in debt, because kids could cost a lot of money. Once they graduate from high school, they need $$$$$ times a few years to study. Sure they can take student loan, but I personally won’t make my kids have debts before they even start their own life. I teach my kids not to have anything they can’t afford. Save, then buy. No money, don’t buy. However, in the end it’s up to you and your dh. Lots of people have a mountain of debt but still live happily and sleep soundly at night. I, in the other hand, can’t sleep through the night knowing I owe my bestie $50 for our dinner last night because my card was expired and I didn’t take the new one. The decision is yours to make.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I appreciate your two cents ! We are trying to get out of debt and your vision for your future children is one I have my future ones as well. Thanks !! Helps to know to just be patient and our time will come

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome. I hope all the best for you too. Be strong. Work hard. Bad times doesn’t last forever if you to work on it. Sending you ❤️

*you two. Sorry for the misspelling 🙃

Like pp has said, everyone has different timelines and it can change.

my husband and i have been married now for about a year and a half and we absolutely have no intention of having kids for a long time. but my husband has always said that if i change my mind then we can revisit that together later

It's a personal choice. I kind of have a little bit of baby fever but not much. My Husband has full flown baby fever lol

As others have said, it is definitely a personal choice and there is no right or wrong time to try to conceive. One thing I learned from others who were honest about their TTC journey is that you also don't know how long it will take you to get pregnant. Some conceive on the first try, others have to try several months and even years. So this is definitely an important decision for you and your husband. If age is a factor, I would try as soon as possible before you find out you need extra help.

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Couldn't agree with this more! My husband and I incorrectly assumed that we wouldn't have any trouble conceiving since we have no relevant medical issues and I'm still under 30, but here we are with no luck after 9 months of trying, and now we're about to see a fertility specialist. You never know if you will have trouble or not so I'd start trying sooner rather than later.

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True. Age is a factor for us so we've had baby fever since we got married in September and still trying.

Definitely need to figure out if you and your husband are on the same page about whether or not right now is the right time to have children. If you have concerns, express them and work through them. It's good to have your finances in order and be stable before you think about children, but it's always ultimately you and your husband's decision when the right time is.

It's also really important to know your family's medical history to determine how likely you are to be able to have children next year or even five years from now. A friend of mine very recently was distraught because she and her new husband were going to try again only to find out she had developed PCOS after being a surrogate and her chances to become pregnant and keep a pregnancy are now slim to none even with treatment.