b List?!

I recommend to not add your B list atvall on the website.

Many users on here have stated that B lists are not the way to go.

The problem with b listing is you either have to send the first list early and the second list on time or the first list on time and the second list with short notice to get your RSVPs back/in. Then people know that they're on the b list - and then they'll be hurt/insulted because they were backup guests. It's just better to make a list of everyone you are able to afford to host and stop when you reach your limit (so start with VIPs).

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I agree with this! We were B-listed at a friend's wedding, and I honestly had hurt feelings because it showed that we weren't as important as the other guests. It also showed us that we weren't the first pick, and wouldn't have been invited if all the A-listers showed up.

If you keep your B-list, then I would suggest not adding them to the RSVP page until AFTER you send out their invitations. That way there won't be any confusion.

Have you tried removing them from the ceremony and reception option under their individual names? I have people from Florida that I know will not show up and I just removed them from the count for those.

I wouldn’t add anyone from a B list it makes them seem less important or that they were just invited because other people said no and you wanted to fill the space.

Do not have a B list, period. Everyone knows who makes that list and it's never pleasant.

I apologize I must have either not elaborated or you may have misunderstood my question. We have a B List as I come from a rather large family and we are ,in fact, in a global pandemic. Our B List consists of second and third cousins and extended family and friends of our parents, as our personal friends that have had a touch in our relationship all took priority to the Aunt Sue's and Cousin Tom's we never saw. I plan to keep the B list as it helps keep track of the people that didn't quite make it in the 180 but that wasn't my question or issue. To reiterate my question is there a way to make it to where when entering those B List names on the RSVP Page, they don't pop up at all.

But thank you for your responses.

Please don't do a B list seriously sit down with your fiance and go through your guest list and cut it down to where it makes sense. It is very hurtful and mean to b list your guests.

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Not sure where your wedding website or RSVP page is located, but I can give you some insight in case yours is like mine!

Our website is through Zola, and we can modify who is invited to what, meaning we can take people off events so they won't see a RSVP for that. (we did this because we have a Rehearsal event and a Wedding Ceremony event. Our Rehearsal only has certain people invited). You just go to Guest List. Then under 'Your Guest List' There's a drop down menu. The 'Invite Guests to Events' option is where you go to add them or take them away from events!

Again, not sure if yours is laid out the same way, but hopefully this helped a little! If not, I would suggest contacting customer support for the platform you're using to see if they can help!

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This helped. Thank you! I ended up having to create a separate group that wasn't "invited" to the wedding.

Sorry for the seemingly harsh above comment as I know B Lists are taboo in a way. But in some cases it is something what needs to be done to ensure that those people aren't forgotten if things change.

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You're welcome! If it needs to be done in your case, then that's what you have to do. No hard feelings!

I wouldn't add the b list on the website. I don't agree with everyone else on having a b list. I think during these times when your guests count can change because of covid there isn't anything wrong with having a b list. We probably have a b list and a c list of people to add to our guest list in case we are allowed more people at the wedding. If people have a problem with it yea I feel bad and I wish I didn't need multiple list but it is what it is during these times and if people can't understand that then that's on them. But I think having a b list is only acceptable during covid times. We live in upstate and my wedding is in 7 months and I still don't know how many people are going to be able to attend.

I'm not here to debate whether or not you should have a B list, but I would recommend only including guests who are "definitely invited" on your wedding website back end, so they are the only ones that can RSVP.

If and when you end up deciding to invite alternate guests, only then should you add them to your RSVP list. Before then, keep a separate list (in a spreadsheet somewhere) of your wedding guests and use that to track who has received STDs or invites, their RSVP, and any other information you need to collect about your guests. Our spreadsheet was my master list (with addresses, phone numbers, etc), and I used our wedding website for RSVP and meal selection only.

Hi Adrien! The list feature can be used for your reference however, please note that any guests added to the Guest List will be able to RSVP. It might be helpful to keep track of these guests in a separate program and add them as needed!