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Lizbeth
Devoted May 2020

b list Invitation/ dramaaaa

Lizbeth, on May 20, 2019 at 2:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15

So i do not have many people invited to the wedding, around 16 people and im pretty sure two might not show, that being said there is a couple of people we are mostly derisive about . (I should mention we are both from Caribbean countries, i am from Puerto Rico and He is from Costa Rica, we have limited family and friends here since all we do is work and hang out with family, literally)

They are not very close to us, a single male,i have only met him a couple of times and he is "friends" with FH but not close as to invite us to his house or go out together (he also had a thing for me before me and FH getting together so i discarded that idea all together) , is a family of four and the son has a family of his own, invited us to their daughters Quinceañera but they aren't really close to us. they are close to my FBIL but not us.

I can invite them and it wouldn't matter much, but i don't really want to. FH doesn't really care but i do. I even thought of inviting them just for the gifts, lol mean i know but honestly i don't want them there just because ya know.

I told FH i wont invite them because they are not close to us and its an intimate and special day we want to celebrate with the people really important for us.

But there is a tiny voice in my brain saying "maybe"????

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Latest activity by iris, on May 21, 2019 at 12:33 AM
  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
    Lizbeth ·
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    Undecided not derisive ** sorry!

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don't understand. You don't want them there and your FH doesn't care. Are you seriously considering inviting someone to your wedding for a gift? That's absurd.

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    If you don't want them there, don't invite them. Invitations are not quid pro quo. Also, you are having a very, very small guest list, so if they ask, you can just be truthful and tell them you had a tiny guest list.
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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
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    I was joking about that. It's just that they are close but not close enough. And i feel like inviting them is ok but we just dont want to lol. but considering my miniature guest list i wonder, you know.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
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    I agree with Hannah. You don't need to invite them.
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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
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    The gift thing was a joke. It is more like a family gathering and i plan on letting people know that if they ask. BUT i still feel weird about it for some reason

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    Huh? if you don't want them there and FH doesn't care, then what's the issue?

    Also, inviting someone just for a gift is so ick.

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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
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    Is there a reason you feel obligated to invite them? Are you trying to make a bigger guest list?

    I think people are confused because it doesn’t sound like you want to invite them but are feeling guilty about that and we can’t quite understand why.

    You don’t need to invite them. Based on your post I don’t think you should invite them.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    This doesn’t really make any sense. You don’t want to invite them and your FH doesn’t care. Don’t invite them and move on.
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
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    Exactly this

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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
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    That was a joke... i dont need gifts!

    and if i wanted gifts i would make a bigger guest list lol i was just joking

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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
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    Ok thanks guys so helpful!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Sounds like you shouldn't invite them. Or anyone for that matter if it's "just for the gifts". Your wedding day should be with your nearest and dearest.

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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    If you wouldn't invite them to your house for dinner, don't invite them to your wedding.
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  • I
    Dedicated June 2020
    iris ·
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    No, just because they invited you to a quince doesn’t mean you have to invite them. Especially if your only having 16 people that’s super intimate. I wouldn’t invite them lol and you even said you didn’t want to. Lol
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