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Just Said Yes June 2021

Awkward Invitation Etiquette

Lisa, on March 5, 2020 at 8:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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My fiance was very close to his best friend (best man) and his wife and was the officiant at their wedding. He is close with his best man's wife's family and sent a save the date to her parents. Flash forward 6 months and they're in the process of starting a messy divorce in which she hasn't spoken to us this whole time and we haven't seen her family. We definitely don't want her there and now we feel it's extremely awkward for her parents to come and could be emotionally traumatic for the best man.
Do we:
Send an invitation and hope they don't come?Send a letter apologizing but "we feel it's best to avoid any potential awkwardness..."

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Latest activity by Sherry, on March 6, 2020 at 3:19 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on March 5, 2020 at 9:08 PM
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Send an invitation and hope they don’t come.
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Super April 2020
Maggie · on March 5, 2020 at 9:15 PM
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I wouldn’t send anything, I’m sure they will understand
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Savvy May 2022
Tia · on March 5, 2020 at 9:32 PM
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Maybe talk to the best man and see his reaction to them being there. If it’s negative then send the letter. If he doesn’t care send the invite.
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on March 5, 2020 at 9:32 PM
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Ouf, yeah that’s a tricky spot. how does the best man feel about you inviting them? I guess I would base my decision heavily upon his feelings on it. I mean at the end of the day he is his best man So if you didn’t already send the save the dates out I would’ve said obviously don’t invite. Is his future ex-wife kind of drama-ish or is she polite and respectful? I think if you send the invitations I think if they are decent people they will understand to RSVP no given the situation and circumstance. I’m sure she obviously understands too that you guys had no idea they wereGetting a divorce when you initially sent the save the dates out but I think at this point it’s just best to send the invites and pray they are decent people and don’t show up and RSVP no.
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Pam · on March 5, 2020 at 10:34 PM
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Yep, Tia's got it!
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Sherry · on March 6, 2020 at 3:19 PM
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I would still send the invitation and let them decide whether to come or not.
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