Awful bridesmaid

Did you not know your sister's personality before you asked her to be in your wedding? Unfortunately, it's not going to change just because you're getting married. You should have asked your bridesmaids their budget before assuming that, because they have jobs, they can afford a $100+ dress. $100 isn't an unrealistic budget and it's what she can afford. I would have a conversation with her. It sounds like she doesn't feel like her voice is being heard. I would also recommend checking out Birdy Grey, all of their BM dresses are $99.

Is she your MOH? If not, maybe have a chat with your MOH and see if she can deflect some of the attitude you're getting from your sister so you won't be so stressed since you're going to have a lot on your plate. I think you can find dresses very close to $100 if you look online, like Azazie (dresses are $119), and then Birdy Grey (all dresses are $99 but not a lot of choices). But if she's complaining just to complain, I would definitely get some help in fielding her attitude.

I took my girls shopping for their dresses 11 months early because all but my MOH are out of state and I knew they would all be in town for Christmas. I also wanted all of the girls in the same dress (I know I'm in the minority on this one but I just don't care for the miss-match look, although I do understand it) so I wanted everyone to be able to try on everything and make a decision together. That being said, we did not buy the dresses that early. Weight can fluctuate and while if they lost weight it would be easy enough to get the dress taken in, if anyone had gained it could potentially cause an issue as there is only so much letting out that can be done. We ordered ours 6 months and 1 week early. After the 6 month mark everyone would have had to pay an expedited fee (6 months seems about standard for the smaller boutiques, less if you do something like Davids). I think you would be okay with shopping for a dress now but I wouldn't recommend having anyone buy yet. I would also make sure to get confirmation that the dress would likely still be available to order in 9 months since seasons change and styles get discontinued.

Personally, I have never worn a bridesmaid dress under $100 so I don't think something in the $100-150 range is unreasonable. It kind of sounds like her attitude is dictating her budget more than what she can actually afford to me but I kind of have to agree with some of the PPs... she's your sister so you kind of knew about her attitude in advance, it doesn't excuse it though.

Did you ask for their budget when choosing a dress? Even if she can afford a $200 dress, doesn't mean she wants to drop $200 on a dress she will wear once. Maybe she is saving up for something like a down payment on a house or has student loans. I could technically afford a $200 BM dress, but I would much rather spend under $150 because it feels silly to spend so much on a dress I will only wear once.

Some people just have attitude and unfortunately I think you just have to deal with it as you and your mother know that's how she is.

I can agree with her feelings of "this is too early" "this is more expensive than I expected". However, you have your reasons for doing it the way you want and that's FINE. I think you say " I respect your opinion but this is how im doing it".

Good luck!

I agree with picking one out and then ordering later. I got ours through David's Bridal since its located nationwide, it was easy for all the girls in different cities to get measured and order from one that is local to them. My wedding is in July, and they ordered their dresses in February/March (we only have a 6-month engagement anyway).

As far as attitude goes, I, unfortunately, am having a problem with my mother. Can't seem to just say that she likes anything, and its all criticism - and no one needs to deal with that! I agree with someone else, with asking her if she is really into it, or if she would rather just be a guest because what you need is someone who is in a supportive role, and will be happy to be there by your side. She might need the wake-up call to not be such an ass.

Listen to these red flags. She will be one of the people in your bridal suite. It's just May 2019, so there's plenty of time for her to be more offensive. I get that she is your sibling. We had to fire my FH's sister as bridesmaid for some sabotaging behavior. It came out that she is very upset about the attention we are getting for our wedding. Both FSIL and FMIL are very sour that he is standing by me on this. It's not worth it for you to stress out about another adult's less than gracious behavior.

First, I want to say im so sorry your going thru this! Its very stress and I feel no one should need added stress during this happy time! I just went thru something similar with my cousin. I asked her to be my MOH, at first she seemed kinda happy, We went looking at dresses and then she just had a attitude ever since that day. She complained about the dress price, 185 which i didn't think was bad at all because other dresses cost way more! Before hand i asked everyone their budget to make sure they could all pay for it. My dress shop even does payments so it wasn't like they needed it all up front. Months went by she only paid 60 on the dress and never anymore. We were on a dead line do to people's situations and how long it took to get the dresses back ( custom orders). She had been very shady, never answer messages or calls. So i messaged her nicely to talk about the dress, and She gave me the run around. I asked her if she wanted to be in my wedding, and she first said no, then it was a yes then it was no! Then it was if i pay the dress off in time (which was a week ago) I told her i need a yes or no answer not wait and see do to dead lines. Shes dropped out. I didn't wanna lose her but things have been going way better without her attitude. It sucks but sometimes things work out the right way. My advice is not to let anyone, even family make your wedding planning or your day difficult! Have people that are happy for you stand by your side!