FH and I were due to marry Dec 2020 and leave for our cruise honeymoon 2 days after the wedding. Relatives of ours are meant to be getting married the week after us at a destination location (8 hours' drive) and we were not originally going to attend because of our honeymoon (we'd be out of the country). As time went on and we anticipated that our honeymoon would be cancelled due to COVID, we booked accommodation for the relative's wedding, anticipating that we would go - FH was not happy about this as he doesn't like the couple (at all!) with but I told him we have to go as they're family, even though it is a very long drive and will cost us a bomb to attend (did I mention I hate destination weddings?).
Now due to new restrictions in place, we have postponed our wedding to Dec 2021 and cancelled our cruise as we intend to book a new cruise for our Dec 2021 honeymoon. We don't know yet if my relatives will also postpone their wedding to next year as they are still deciding.
My question is, as we haven't yet booked anything, will we be the as*holes if we book a honeymoon similar to what we originally had planned (1-2 days after the wedding) instead of booking one for later on after my relatives' wedding (if they postpone)?
We are entitled to take our honeymoon how and when we please, as is everyone, I just don't know if it's the right thing to do and don't want to start family drama. I should add: the only cruise we like that takes place after my relatives' wedding (if they postpone to the same date next year) is MUCH more expensive than the cruises leaving before, meaning we'd be up for a more expensive honeymoon + travel/accommodation costs for the wedding.
HELP!
