Aunts and Uncles...

Nope, not rude at all. Just because someone thinks they should be invited doesn't mean the get to be. All 4 of my girls restricted their guest lists.

Absolutely.

Good, thank you. I would love to invite everyone, but weddings are not cheap.

I have cousins that I don't know or see ever, but I know and get along with their parents really well. So I'm only inviting a few of my first cousins, the ones I actually see, and my aunts and uncles.

I'm kind of in the opposite boat. I have cousins I wish to invite, but I'm not too keen on their parents. My uncles on my mother's side live across the pond in England so I've never even met them (although I speak with one once a year or so on Facebook). My father's brothers live in the same state as me, but I have no real relationship with either of them anymore. One of their kids, though, I grew up with and adore to this day, even though we don't see each other often. So she and her boyfriend are getting invited, but I don't think I'll be inviting her father. He's on the guest list at the moment, but with a little asterisk next to his name to show that I'm okay with removing him to trim the list down.

All of the aunts and uncles except one set, live in the state, but the cousins are scattered all over the country. I have 26 aunts and uncles, and my fiance have 3. My cousin count is ridiculous. Lol, my extended family is huge, his not so much.

I am also just inviting aunts and uncles I'm on a tight budget.

That's exactly what im doing. We're at 100 guests just between our immediate family and aunts/uncles and 5 friends. No room for cousins!

One of my uncle's lost his wife a few years ago, is it ok that I add a +1 with his invite? I don't want to imply he should bring a date, but on the flip side, I don't want to exclude the possibility of him bringing a date either.

My FSIL invited only aunts and uncles, we are inviting aunts, uncles, and cousins; but not the children of our cousins. Adding their kids would increase the guest list by 20-30 people.

Last night FH and I were editing our guestlist, our venue holds up to 400 guests but we are only hosting it for 380 due to our budget. My guestlist for my fam&close friends is about 160 so im letting FH invite the other 220. I counted all the people on his guest list and it added up to 406!!! He has 15 uncles and aunts from his mothers side plus their husbands/wifes its about 30 and his dad has another 8 siblings plus husbands/wifes, plus hundreds of cousins!!! He is crazy if he thinks he's inviting everyone!!! He better start deleting people off that list ASAP!!!

Lol, if I added all my cousins, the guest list would be about 300!! My Dad has 7 brothers and sisters and had at least three kids each, my Mom has 5 brothers and they had about 4 or more kids each!! And 80% of the cousins are married with kids.

Its not rude at all. Only do what you can afford. Anyone who really loves and cares about you will be able to understand that. I'm kind of in the same boat... FH has a bazillion cousins because both of his parents have multiple siblings and many of those cousins have kids. We will be paying for the wedding ourselves and even though the date is wayyyy far off from now, I can see it will already be a cause for disagreement, so compromise. My advice is to invite those closest to you who you keep in touch with most regardless of whether they are related to you or not. I have an aunt who no one has spoken to in over 2 years but we aren't inviting her just because she's 'immediate' family. Good luck!

Not rude at all. We did the same thing.

Invite whoever you want! It's your wedding, you don't HAVE to invite anyone.

Have the wedding you can afford. If that means 100 people, then you invite 100 people. It's better to only invite the number of people you can afford to host, than to invite everyone and not have the budget to host them properly.

The guest list so far has hands down been the hardest part of wedding planning. You are always going to make someone upset no matter who you invite/don't invite. Your plan sounds like a good one.

We are dealing with the same issue and have agreed to only invite uncles and aunties and only cousins we actually have a relationship with. our total guest list is 150. if we invited everyone we would be over 600.