Aunts and uncles

I don't know hardly any of the people on my mom or dads side of the family, but they are insisting on inviting all of them. I wasn't too thrilled about it but they are helping to pay for the wedding, plus they said they probably won't come but might send a gift lol. If you're paying the bill, I wouldn't invite them if you don't want to. If your dad really wants them to be invited, maybe ask him to help with the costs? Otherwise, he can't really complain, especially since you aren't close with them.

We are only invited I think a total of 3 sets of Aunts and Uncles who we are close to. The rest we did not invite. If you are paying, your dad doesn't really have a say. I'm sure he is upset but if its not in your budget, o well. We suggested something like an I do BBQ for a few days after the wedding for all the family/ friends who couldn't make it or were not invited and everyone seems to be happy with this.

My dad is the youngest of a VERY large family, 18 births and about 10 still with us. There are a couple of them I would have wanted but 2 of the 3 aunts and uncles I was closest to have already passed. In my case there were a few I would not invite because of their views on my marrying another woman. I think it is your wedding to invite as you see fit if you're paying. BUT, if you're not that close to them and they would have to travel, they might just decline anyway.

I am inviting about 1/2 of my parents siblings. It's ok to only invite people you are close to.

It’s my second wedding as well, and I had something similar happen. My parents have three siblings each, and I really only wanted to invite two from my moms side and has initially decided to just not invite any of them to not hurt anyone’s feelings. My mom had then asked if I was inviting her siblings, because the two of them had been asking her and really want to go. I ended up inviting them all, but cutting out all 30+ cousins. We’re having a destination wedding, so I’m not sure most of them will come. Even though we are paying for everything ourselves, we decided that it would be best to invite the aunts and uncles.
For you, I think you should consider who else you would have to add if you add your fathers siblings. Does that mean you’ll have to add your mothers siblings, or your fiancé's aunts and uncles? Unfortunately you have to draw the line somewhere, and someone’s feelings are always going to be hurt. But with 8 siblings, if they’re all married that would be an extra 16 guests. That’s a big difference. Whatever you decide will be fine, just don’t let anyone talk you into inviting people you can’t afford.

I just had my second wedding and I paid for it so I invited who I wanted. My dad has 5 siblings and I only invited 1 uncle and his wife. I didn’t invite the others because I don’t see them much. I don’t think it’s a big deal.

I’m having to invite everyone. My mom is the youngest of 7, but I only like 2 of her siblings. Unfortunately, If k only invite those 2, it’ll be WW3 and I don’t really need that leading up to my wedding day. I’m hoping they just won’t come since it’s pretty far for them to travel and they don’t have a lot of money (they’re leeches, that’s why none of us are particularly close to them)

I don't understand why distant family members feel so entitled to a wedding invitation. I would stand your ground and only invite the ones you're closest to. If your dad really wants all his siblings there, he can pay for them

I think it always depends on the situation.
If your dad was paying for a lot of the wedding, I would say you give him a number of people to invite that includes all of those siblings and their plus ones, and then maybe a few more couples. Unless you were having a super small wedding.
But, he is not paying, so I would say if this isn't something that's a huge deal to him, just tell him you're sure no one will really mind and you'd love to have a get together with everyone later in the summer. If it's something that's really driving him crazy personally but his siblings dont seem to really care, I would say the same thing: tell him to have a get together later in the summer, non wedding related. But, I would say if this is something causing your dad grief and drama from his family, offer up him paying their plates if you're having a normal sized wedding. Not worth the drama unless this is a big deal to you and you aren't inviting a lot of your friends due to numbers and just really don't want the 8 extra people, which is fine.

Obviously, you have complete control over the guest list, however, if you wanted to, you each could allot your parents a small number of guests to invite.

I invites all of my parents siblings and their spouses/partners but I knew almost all of them wouldnt come. It was an act of respect for my parents (they arent paying, we are) but ultimately, the choice is yours. Or tell your dad that he would have to pay for the ones you're not close to (most people balk when they hear they would have to pay). Good luck.