Aunt Not Coming

Let it go. An invitation is not a summons. You don't get to tell people what to do with their time.

Maybe your aunt's feelings are hurt she was not invited to the private wedding. If she was that important she would have made the cut. Let it go and move on

Did she have this planned before your wedding? I know it sucks that she won't be there, but unfortunately not everyone is able to make things in life for whatever reasons. I don't really think there is anything to handle. Tell her she will be missed at the wedding, but you understand that she can't make it.

ETA: I just noticed that you said you had a small private wedding out of town. Maybe her feelings are hurt that you basically B listed her.

She may have already had this planned, you can tell her it hurts all you want but that won't really change that she has other plans.

A very close aunt of mine went on her hols when I got married. While they had two years notice, they travel that time every year. I just let it go, we skyped the and my cousins the morning off.

I know it sucks; my aunt and uncle (oot guests) aren't coming to my wedding due to another event conflict. But it is what it is. she already had this planned, and trust me, your wedding will still be just as fun! You can express to her how you are hurt, but I don't that that will change her from coming. best of luck!

Making a wedding guest list is like swimming in shark infested waters. This is a perfect example. Hurt feelings can last a long time. Invite her again.

I don't really think there's anything to "handle." You invited her, she has a prior commitment and declined.

My uncle and his wife didn't even bother to RSVP to my wedding. Didn't take the one minute it would have taken to send a congratulatory e-mail. Nothing! It was like my wedding never existed.

It happened. I moved on.

Hubby and I and everyone who attended had a fabulous time. they missed it! No longer care they didn't care.

Well, yeah. Of course let it go. You can't kidnap her.

She's busy that day.

If She already had the other event planned, you can't begrudge her not coming. You can always talk to her about it. You can tell her how you feel but understand that she might have similar feelings about not being invited to the ceremony.

You all are brutal. I could go on about how close of a family we are spending every holiday together but you are right! I wanted a private wedding, parents and siblings only. She may have this prior commitment and would have like an invite to the private ceremony. And yes we will have a great time at our BBQ with or without her!

I'm so sorry OP. She may feel like she has to attend. I know some workplaces feel like you're not a team player if you skip a yearly function. Especially if no one else is missing it...

Let it go. She wasn't invited to your actual wedding so how important is it really.

By the way my aunt (who I was very close with growing up) isn't comjng to my wedding. She already has a vacation planned. I would much rather her not go out of her way and change her vacation plans and spend a bunch of money just to go to my wedding.