August Brides!! Is it “inconsiderate” to continue planning?

I don't think you are being inconsiderate. The one thing to remember is not only are people dealing with this stupid virus, but some don't have jobs or are laid off right now. Our wedding is in September, I'm expecting a lower guest count just because of the financial burden this might create. My FSIL called me selfish for continuing to plan for September, I just ignored her and kept going.

I do not think you are being inconsiderate at all! i feel like eventually life is going to have to get back to normalcy right and people can choose to come to your wedding or not, that's their choice. i know that this has hit some people harder than others financially but again, that's up to them to come and so i don't really think it makes sense for you to reschedule if you don't have to.

I think your MOH is inconsiderate for saying that.
Our wedding is August 8th and we are planning as per usual. We are sending out a "message to our guests" card with our invites as well as putting a banner on our website that says:
"In
light of the current and ever-evolving situation surrounding covid-19, we have
decided to continue on with our wedding planning for the time being. As things
change, we may need to make a difficult decision to postpone our wedding if
required. Please RSVP with the thought that all will have settled by the time
of our wedding. Our venue will be providing a final decision near the end of
June. Rest assured, we will always have the best interests of our guests in mind when we make a decision". Just so people know we aren't idiots who don't listen to the news, lol.

I don't think you are being inconsiderate. While the virus itself might be under control by August, the damage it has not might not be. People are currently out of work which means extra expenses like attending a wedding won't be as important to them as paying for bills and other necessities. Therefore, you guest count could dramatically decrease. I would continue to monitor the situation and have a backup plan in place.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I agree that it is reasonable to expect a lower guest count!

View Quoted Comment I completely agree!

View Quoted Comment I love that idea!! We are definitely going to do something similar. I think it will help guests understand we aren’t living under a rock lol

View Quoted Comment Yes, amazing point! That is the main reason we are open to a backup plan.

Our wedding is on August 29, and we are moving forward as planned. Invitations are going to go out end of May/beginning of June, and I'm also going to put a notice in the invitations that the date might change due to Covid-19. I found this wording on these forums!:

"During these times of uncertainty, we want to prioritize the health of loved ones above all else, and understand any and all inabilities to attend. Your safety, peace of mind, and well being are most important. Please keep an eye on our website as the date gets closer, in the case that postponing becomes necessary."

I don't think you are being inconsiderate at all! Our date is August 15th and we are trying to be optimistic that we won't have to postpone. I completely understand that some people may not come due to financial reasons, but I also feel that, for my crowd at least (I don't want to make generalizations), people need something positive to look forward to. For our friends and family, that is our wedding. Of course if someone feels as though they can't make it because of the money aspect, I get it.

Planning your wedding during this time is not inconsiderate and you absolutely may be able to have a wedding by that date. I think you just have to keep an open mind right now and know that some people may not be able to join. For reasons of fear or for financial reasons. That is their prerogative. Even when brides schedule weddings within a normal year, family and friends seem to find a reason to complain. "Oh it's a DW, how rude." "Oh it is during July and outdoors. They clearly aren't thinking about me."


Do you. Plan your wedding.

I don't think so. Ours is in July, and we are still planning. We are just making it clear to anyone who asks while we are still planning to go ahead unless restrictions continue and force us to postpone, but we fully understand if anyone decides they do not want to attend or are unable to for financial reasons. We are planning to share the ceremony via a video stream for anyone who is unable to attend (already planned for my grandparents and father who were already unable to attend due to physical limitations and health concerns before all this COVID stuff).

I would keep planning. Our wedding is in September and I think I have a couple more vendors to pay for our deposits but we are planning as usual. I suspect a lower guest count but that may not be the worst especially if you want a smaller more intimate wedding. Wishing us all the best during these uncertain times xx

This is not inconsiderate at all! If anything just be prepared for some guests who may not be able to give gifts, but I’m sure that’s something you don’t care about anyways. If anything it’s a happy event to look forward to once this thing is over ❤️

My wedding date is August 29th. We are still planning as if we are going to still have it. Fingers crossed of course. I still think it’s too early to say how things will be in August. It isn’t inconsiderate at all!

For me, I got one life to live and after this madness is over I'm living it to the fullest. I don't think it's inconsiderate at some point life has to resume. We rescheduled once we are not planning on doing it again.

We are planning what is absolutely necessary...however, we are August 29th, and for the exact reasons your MOH said, we are strongly considering postponing. I think many will be just getting back on their feet financially, or with work etc. I suspect bans will be lifted in May/early June.

However, even if bans are lifted etc., we are still strongly considering postponing because I just do not think people will be comfortable traveling even if they weren't financially impacted during the virus.

A date is a date, I'd rather have all the people I want to be there to be there than be stuck on a specific date.

I don’t think it’s inconsiderate and I had that same fear too but finally realized it is okay to still plan and be excited.


I am a September bride but I just spoke with my venue and asked if I could pick a plan B date for May 2021 just in case! They said yes as long as I put a deposit down and I did! So ultimately in June we will see where we are at with this virus and I will have to make a decision then.
The deposit will go towards either day and I feel relieved knowing that we have backup plan!

Our original date was for August 22nd. I started to have some family and friends ask me about it also. We made the tough decision to postpone to July 2021. It seems like restrictions may be lifted by August, however, not sure if people will want to be in large group settings. I guess it depends the size of your wedding and if everyone is local. We have some family traveling and I'd rather have all the people I want to be there to be there. I feel relieved and now just more time to plan and focus on the little details!