Tara
Devoted August 2020

August Bride- Riding it out...

Tara, on April 30, 2020 at 10:28 AM

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We are scheduled to get married 8/22/20 in Ohio. I was going to revisit in June about possible cancellation. I have decided instead to ride this out longer. 90% of the planning is done and money is spent. We are going to continue as normal and not cancel until the beginning of August. Anyone else...
We are scheduled to get married 8/22/20 in Ohio. I was going to revisit in June about possible cancellation. I have decided instead to ride this out longer. 90% of the planning is done and money is spent. We are going to continue as normal and not cancel until the beginning of August. Anyone else doing something similar? At this point, what do we have to lose 🤷‍♀️

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  • Hannah
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    My wedding was originally scheduled for May 16th and we have now rescheduled for August 22nd. We decided that if the unfortunate happens are we are unable to have our wedding for the second time, we will simply get married and have a reception next year.
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  • Charlotte
    Devoted September 2021
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    I'm early September in Ohio and we're doing the same thing...we're waiting until July to make a final decision. I've also made a backup 50 guest list just in case. At this point, I just want to have it haha I'm so tired of the crying and stressing about it. We've already spent almost $8k and I know it'll cost to postpone...Most of our guest list is immediate family and a few friends. I feel like if we do have it, those who don't feel safe just won't come 🤷‍♀️
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
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    Yeah I think we will know a lot more by July. With us starting to open, it does give me hope. Even if we can’t have a full guest list, I also have a list of 50 people for plan B. I’m feeling hopeful today ❤️
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  • Fatmata
    Just Said Yes September 2020
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    Yes I am in the same situation. Our weddinf wa suppose to be sept 6 2020 but we have sent a lot to money and it’s pretty much planned. The issue is so many people I know contracted covid and it won’t be wise to have it in September anymore. Plus we live in NJ and it seems like social distancing is going to be here for a while.
    I contacted the venue about re scheduling it and they said they will get back to me by mid May. I’m so worried they won’t work with us and if not how much of our money would we get back..,it’s all messy and exhausting
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  • Kathryn
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Fellow 10/10/2020 bride here! I am type A to the max so I’ve had every vendor booked, planned, scheduled, done for months now... I just received our invitations (which ask for an RSVP by 8/10/20. We are trying to be optimistic and hopeful but we live right outside of NYC. it’s worse here than most other places so i’m afraid our hotel
    wedding of 100+ will be affected. Our plan is to only postpone or change the date if we’re forced to by a mandate. fingers crossed 🤞🏼🤞🏼
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  • Rafia
    October 2030
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    Ah, I feel you! I'm getting mixed reactions from family and friends too. Which is making it worse in deciding what to do. I'm in Socal and our county just extended "lockdown" till June 19, which is scary to me... I'll give it till the end of May but I am starting to reach out to vendors as much as I can. Smiley sad I hope it works out for you! (And for all of us brides!)

    It just sucks because this is something that has never happened before and affected weddings the way it has in recent years. Love, positive vibes, and prayers all 2020 brides! Smiley sad

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  • Ashley
    Beginner August 2020
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    We have the same date and are in the same boat with our venue. Such a roller coaster of emotions!

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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    Just heard some info from the VA governor. Seems like we will probably be in phase 3 by then by what he said. I'm going to plan to just stick with my venue and plan based on his projections. If it works out, then great. If not, I tried my best!!!

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  • Mandy
    Savvy August 2020
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    We are getting married 8/15/2020, and I am optimistic that we will be okay. We live in PA (a county over from Philadelphia, so we have a lot of cases), but we are gettig married in DE. Our vendors are optimistic as well. All of our vendors are booked with the exception of the rehearsal dinner, and we have spent $10k so far... We have 200 invites and do not want to have to cut the guest list down to 50. Contigency plan is to still get married on that date and have reception later, maybe in a year since we are unsure of a second wave in the fall. I still want the bridal shower and bach party, so even if we are able to have our wedding/reception on 8/15 and have these things after. We just want to be married! Our date will be 3 years of officially dating, and we have the date printed on so many things! Plus, he is 34, and I am 30! He has two daughters, but I am ready for us to have a baby!

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  • Jill
    Just Said Yes January 2021
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    We just made the decision to cancel the big 1/16/21 (200 guests) wedding. We will have an intimate ceremony and 30 person dinner on the same date. We will lose $3k in deposits, but overall save money. I’m worried about Covid 19 wave 2 or 3, and since 70% of our guests would be traveling to Tampa it made sense. Everyone understood and thought it was the right thing to do. It is our 2nd marriage, so I’m honestly relieved
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  • Anna
    Master June 2020
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    Yes! I'm getting married, June 6th, a little over 30 days out. I personally, think you will be fine.
    I've had faith all along, and will continue to do so.
    Most of my guests are coming, so I will just focus on the positive, nothing wrong with you doing the same.Remember, we have all lived with all sorts of viruses around us daily for years, actually our whole lives. I think there is nothing wrong with being cautious, but living in fear, isn't any way to live in my opinion. Of course I understand some people are afraid, I don't fault them for that. I just like you, choose to move forwardSmiley smile congratulations!
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  • Kirsten
    Devoted October 2020
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    Same but in October. And the backup plan is to get married anyway and do the party another time.
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  • Jelmi
    Savvy July 2021
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    Hey twin wedding.
    We are getting Married same day but in California. Everything has been so stressful I have everything booked and just waiting for the date. I don’t want to change anything at this point . I don’t want to stress over having to rebook everything and find another date that works with all my vendors and my venue
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
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    Congrats to you as well!! I refuse to let this stop my marriage. I told my FH today that this is what marriage is all about- in sickness and in health and In pandemic. 🤣 Yes I’ll be sad if we miss out on the big reception, but we will carry on 😊
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  • Kenzie
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Hi!

    So I live in Maryland and have also been closely listening/watching with the DC, VA and MD governors say. Despite hims saying he "thinks" VA can reopen..it's not a sure thing. Plus at least here in Maryland, our governor said Phase II would last months. If you look at many plans across the U.S., phase III still requires social distancing.

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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    Hi Kenzie, I too live in Maryland. Gov. Northam is not just going on what he think; he is also a physician the decisions are based on facts and data, not just “thoughts.” I encourage you to take a look at the presentation he shared: there are diagrams of current data and projected time frames for phasing. I trust his leadership because he is a) a physician and an expert in the medical field while I am not a medical professional. He alone is not making the decisions and they are not based on “thoughts” but rather on data. It is really easy to be negative at a time like this and I get where you are coming from, but you should check out the facts. I’m not sure if you are an expert in epidemiology or in the medical field, so I think I will take the advice of the professionals. I wish you the best of luck with your wedding. I plan on enjoying mine in the summer if government and medical officials make the call it can happen and I encourage you to do the same.
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  • Ellonda
    Beginner August 2020
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    I'm with you girl. I'm trying my best to ride this out. We learned out honeymoon was cancelled today...

    Our wedding is in Aruba on August 7th... and they're set to reopen on June 1st and had only 100 cases so it's not a danger zone. We have a small list of about 45 people attending and we are all just waiting. Trying to pray and not freak out cuz there's nothing I can do. I have a tough day, but I'm ready to start being optimistic again! Thanks for this post, ladies. It gave me a littlre more hope that it's ok to just wait it out. Crossing our fingers...

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  • Kenzie
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I never claimed he was not going to listen to the data. He also did say he "think" it can reopen..based on data. The Governor also said phase II could be 2-4 weeks or longer, where the governor of Maryland said it could be months. Again, they will follow the data. But when things reopen and people from other states are traveling, things will get worse. My best friends dad is actually an epidemiologist, and he was the first person who suggested I postpone until at least the summer or 2021, even later if I could. I was being super positive until I had a real conversation with him. My fiance is also in his residency in medical school so he is seeing firsthand what is happening in hospitals in Maryland. So yes, I am actually quite informed and more than the average person.


    I hope you do have your wedding in the summer. But you may want a backup plan.

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  • Emily
    Savvy October 2021
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    Hi! I am a NY bride for 10/3! Not trying to be rude, but why are you aking for your rsvps back so early? Is it because of covid? Usually you want them back 3-4 weeks before the actual wedding! Just wondering if there is something different is all Smiley smile
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  • Kathryn
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Nothing to due with COVID... I made the decision together with my invitation and signage designers... my signage designer is making a large custom sign with the seating chart as opposed to the traditional seating assignment cards that people use... she needs the RSVP list 8 weeks prior to the wedding so it can be created and shipped from her in WI to me in NY. That in combination with the fact that our wedding is scheduled for a holiday weekend (traditionally, holiday weekends require more notice and planning, as people may have long weekend plans already, creating an earlier schedule for save the dates, invites, and eventually RSVP’s)
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