Tara
Devoted August 2020

August Bride- Riding it out...

Tara, on April 30, 2020 at 10:28 AM

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We are scheduled to get married 8/22/20 in Ohio. I was going to revisit in June about possible cancellation. I have decided instead to ride this out longer. 90% of the planning is done and money is spent. We are going to continue as normal and not cancel until the beginning of August. Anyone else...
We are scheduled to get married 8/22/20 in Ohio. I was going to revisit in June about possible cancellation. I have decided instead to ride this out longer. 90% of the planning is done and money is spent. We are going to continue as normal and not cancel until the beginning of August. Anyone else doing something similar? At this point, what do we have to lose 🤷‍♀️

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    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Stefanie ·
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    Cali wedding also! We postponed from 3/27 to 8/21 and fearing we may have to cancel. I will not postpone again. Just debating when to call it? How long we wait? If that’s the case we will go to Vegas at this point! But is anyone afraid of guests not coming? Or having Not having a lot of guests show up?! Our guest list is small to begin with! 85 people and I’m worried if we keep our date we’re going to have a tiny wedding and it won’t be worth it. By July 1st I’m calling it.
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  • Kenzie
    Dedicated August 2020
    Kenzie ·
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    Thanks for that article. I live in Montgomery but my wedding venue is in a part of the state that opened quicker. The only issue I have is the face masks. If my venue requires them I’m fighting to get it postponed. If people have to wear masks then the large event shouldn’t be allowed in my opinion.
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
    Tara ·
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    I would still ride it out. In Ohio, our gatherings are still limited to 10, BUT that doesn’t apply to businesses. So we can have up to 300 people in a restaurant or banquet hall for a wedding. My venue is stating 50% of fire code. So it’s different everywhere really.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Similar boat here. PA is opening but county we are marrying in needs next phase to have 250. We cut guest list about half to ensure vendors and staff won’t put us over. Have not sent invitations because I too am worried my county won’t go green in time.
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
    Tara ·
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    Yeah I think people understand during these times. For us, 50% of code is 80 people. We invited 96. I invited the full list and I’m sure some will decline , so I’m not too worried about it. We will only have 6 staff members too. When is your date?
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi Tara! August 14th in PA. Fiancé is confident our county will go and I hope he is right. We cut list down to family and bridal party and will likely order invitations this week to send out early July. I think you are right, people will understand. Has your honeymoon been affected? We are unable to go to Bahamas as our resort won’t open till November.
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
    Tara ·
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    As of right now, no it has not been affected. We are going to Mexico and it appears that nothing has cancelled or closed permanently. We will see though.
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  • Victoria
    Savvy June 2021
    Victoria ·
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    An update on my wedding! We were originally planning for 8/22/20 in MI but we made the call to postpone to June 2021 this past weekend. It really came down to not feeling comfortable having our guests decide between risking their health or coming to our wedding. We want to celebrate with as many of our loved ones as we can and if that means postponing for another year, so be it. Even if there isn’t a vaccine by next summer, hopefully more measures will be in place to manage COVID and it gives places more time to become accustomed to it. Honestly, I thought I would be more upset but instead I have a feeling of a gigantic weight off my shoulders! I’m still sad that things aren’t going as planned, but all of that is out of my control. Now we have more time to plan and focus on other things (like dealing with this virus) without worrying about planning a wedding in the middle of it all. Regardless, whatever you and your partner think is best and are comfortable with is all that matters. Best of luck to all the brides powering through this summer/the remainder of the year!
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    We just postponed this week as well! From 8/1/20 to 7/25/21. We’ll still have a small ceremony and dinner with friends this year. I thought I would be really sad but I feel okay about it. I couldn’t handle the constant daily stress anymore so postponing was worth it!
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    Savvy August 2020
    Octavia ·
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    We talked about postponing with our venue today, but they won’t let us. I’m really upset about it. We are in a state that has a huge spike in cases. Not sure what else to do... we put in place every precaution we can, but still don’t like the situation we are in.
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  • Kenzie
    Dedicated August 2020
    Kenzie ·
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    Hi! I’m in a similar situation. My venue will no longer allow couples to postpone or cancel because we are moving forward in phases. I don’t feel comfortable having a wedding in August but I really have no choice but to move forward. Either we cancel on them and pay over $30,000 or go ahead with the wedding. Luckily my state of Maryland everything is declining.
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  • Marcie
    Savvy August 2020
    Marcie ·
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    I also canceled from 8/8/20 to 8/8/21. The stress was too much. Will have a small ceremony and dinner after as well. I am at peace with it.

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    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Christine ·
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    I am so ready too! We are in Santa Barbara, but coronavirus cases just started to pick up here. The county is still not allowing celebrations/receptions or events at all. Everything else is completely open here. I am worried that we are just waiting to be told that we have to follow strict guidelines like no dancing and can only have 50 people or something. Have you heard anything from your venue or this?

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  • Jelmi
    Savvy July 2021
    Jelmi ·
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    I have heard from the venue. And since it’s in los alamos they follow a different guidelines. But my party is not the big. I had to bring it down since those outside of Cali won’t be coming. The list dropped a lot. Best of luck hope you hear soon
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    Beginner August 2020
    Sarah ·
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    Hello!

    Im on the same boat as you. Im in NJ and our venue is in north/west NJ. We're supposed to be getting married on Aug 7th but since Murphy is opening things up SLOWLY, our venue will not let us cancel. They are letting us post pone within 90 days of our original date with no fee if we need more time to prepare (with only mon, tues ava. and they are making us still pay weekend fee).

    I believe in your case and mine, this is totally unfair for them to be holding us hostage for a wedding we did NOT agree on- we did not agree on a 25% capacity or only have an outdoor ceremony, wear masks, social dis, etc. I believe this is a total violation of our contract. Also if there is a limit, keep in mind this includes your guests AND their servers, your DJ, photographers, venue employees, etc.

    If this is the way they want to treat their clients.... go ahead. We're getting a lawyer to get our money back that they are holding hostage. Our contract did not state we are OKAY with wearing masks, social dis, and having to limit our guest count. Also, there is no guarantee that by August, we can have X amount of people. I am not paying for anything I am not 100% guaranteed. So with that, we are OUT.

    This is just ridiculous. You would think that at a time like this PANDEMIC, venues can be more understanding. All of our vendors are being SUPER kind/understanding at this time.

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    Just Said Yes February 2020
    Jenna ·
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    We are in PA also, Bucks County with a 8/22/20 wedding. Our venue is fully outdoors which is helpful; HOWEVER, even though we can have gatherings of 250 here the guidelines are still that social distancing and masks need to be required through summer. Our venue is being extremely strict with the guidelines. Even though we can have it, we have to space all tables 6 ft. apart which is costing us a ton for additional tents. We are asking about rescheduling because we cannot afford all the extra tents and having people wear masks the whole time is going to be extremely uncomfortable for our guests. Also, the updated guidelines for PA do not allow for a dance floor...which I could not imagine a wedding without dancing!

    How is everyone else handling?

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  • Jolene
    Savvy August 2020
    Jolene ·
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    PA wedding in August 22nd...we just decided to have our reception in our backyard. All the vendors like the caterer and dj can still come. Feeling better about being outdoors and being spread apart outside to celebrate. Ceremony will be at our church and it will almost be like a small cookout at our house but with 50 guests. Praying it works out. It’s so sad all this has happened too all us brides this year. If you can’t get married and have your dream reception still have your ceremony and say I do to loves of yours lives! I’m not letting covid stop me from marrying my best friend! Good luck to all!
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  • Elisa
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Elisa ·
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    I just heard my venue today which is in Chester County PA. We are allowed to have our wedding. My coordinator told me so far about what the facility has to do but nothing was yet discussed how many guest or if there are any protocols for guest yet.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi Jenna and all corona brides! My county went green today - we are thrilled! My venue is allowing significant dances only and we switched the music to be more soft rock. We are encouraging guests to return outdoors after dinner. Our venue is allowing no masks outdoors (masks indoors but not at dinner). Ordered custom masks and doing a bracelet in our wedding color to let guests know they are a “strict” social distancing person. Anyone who wants a wristband is welcome but not mandatory.
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  • Julia
    Beginner August 2020
    Julia ·
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    We postponed our 3/28/20 Nashville wedding to 8/1/20. We already got legally married back in March in Cincinnati where we live. We plan on still having our Nashville wedding on 8/1/20 with significantly cutting our guest list to only locals - about 50 people. We were originally 140 people with most people coming from greater NYC.


    Are people having their weddings in some capacity in August? Is 50 people still to many? Our venue seems to think it’s all fine and has some weddings still on in July.
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