August 22, 2020

Go ahead and start planning!!😊 Mines not until November and I’ve been using this time to start figuring things out.

I think by July you should be good to be honest. I had to change mine in Punta Cana from April 20th to August 3rd. We’re also having a celebration back at home on July 18th, I’m going to be sending out invitations for that like 3rd week in May. As long as things are looking up we’re still keeping the July 18th date for the celebration. Worst comes to worst you can send out change the dates! Good luck!

Honestly, things are looking much better with some states starting to reopen (wishing my state would start ASAP). My mom is still planning my shower for June 6th. We have no plans to change the wedding. I for sure think that things are looking much better than they were a week ago!! Keep planning!

My shower is July 11th and my MOH is continuing to plan and will send out invitations in May.

We had to cancel our shower in April. Our wedding isn’t until July 25th but we wanted to have a shower before my SIL (also bridesmaid) had her baby. But with everything going on, we’ve decided to postpone the shower and probably have a week or two before the wedding? I’m really trying to stay positive and I just have a feeling everything should be much better by July...and this is definitely a freaking stressful time and it difficult when your friends aren’t being sympathetic.

View Quoted Comment The good thing is my MOH is very much on board but the other one is very negative. She’s one of those people that are scared of everything unfortunately.

It not selfish at all to want to start planning fun things! I would just be smart about it, have back up plans for everything just in case. I had a struggle with my actual sister who's my maid of honor when planning the first time around ( we had to postpone,) but take everything with a grain of salt, and remember its you and your FH's big day!

I can relate to the OP. I have had back up plans going and started to think of alternatives but my FH's family had a FaceTime with which they started by saying, "August is looking grim so what're you doing about your wedding? You should postpone it." Blah blah blah. It was just annoying because I watch the news daily and was being proactive. I had already posted a message on our website stating that we were in the process of figuring things out as well. I feel like that was a very insensitive way to start the convo. Like, they could've said, "How is the wedding planning? With everything going on, is there something we can do to help?" I felt very attacked. Now I don't get on any of his family calls because I think they're rude and I just don't want to talk about wedding stuff with them. Am I being too sensitive?

View Quoted Comment NO YOU ARE NOT. What I’m noticing is that a lot of people that are married or are may be bitter about being single- don’t take into account our feelings. Ya know? Idk it’s something I’ve noticed personally. My fiancé’s parents have been super awesome and supportive and so have my parents. Thank goodness

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I'm so sorry you got that reaction! Wedding planning is stressful enough as it is and no one should be stressing you out even more by being negative. They have no idea how disheartening it is that the biggest day in your life has turned into a bunch of 'if' statements and I think they should be sensitive to the fact that you are doing the best you can to make decisions in YOUR timing. Instead of telling you what you should do, they should be asking you how you are feeling. This is a big deal and you should not have to feel bad about anything. Just my opinion

View Quoted Comment WOW YES ! Thank you so much. She’s had her wedding so she’s unattached. Her new focus is getting pregnant. She lost her sense of empathy and I agree with everything you say. All of us 2020 brides are genuinely hurting and disillusioned

Hey Gina,
I see how upsetting And discouraging that can be. I feel the same too. I don’t feel much emotional support from a bridesmaid of mine ( whom I was her MOH last year for her wedding) as well with other family members. I think since she already had her wedding, she doesn’t really give a crap about anything else, just her own problems. It’s the “ it’s not happening to me so I don’t really care” mentality. Sad but true.
I’ve come to a realization that you know who your real friends are in tough times like this.
I would recommend to ask someone else who will be supportive to help you.
I have my wedding August too and In SoCal . I might plan my Bridal shower a few weeks before.I’m hoping for the best and trying to stay positive in the midst of all the craziness.I wish you the best! Cheers 🥂

I feel like SO many people are being negative about this without taking account of the brides feelings! I have a friend that is always saying "they'll be lucky if they even get married this year". That makes me feel hurt because I have been planning for 2.5 years! I know this is out of everyone's control, and i do feel selfish wanting to continue our plans, but at the same time I think going ahead and planning gives us all something to look forward to! I would just keep on going!

View Quoted Comment UGH! You said it so perfectly. People are being awfully rude like “there’s people dying and you wanna plan this wedding?” I’m sorry but people die every day unfortunately. Whether it be a pandemic or war casualties. People die, we’re all destined for that. But while we live we can live with the guilt of the people that are gone. THEYRE FREAKING GONE. Our life shouldn’t stop or end because of that.

We CANT live ... *