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Alexis Hosley, on May 11, 2020 at 1:36 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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Hey everyone!

So my one bridesmaid just got engaged (I'm SUPER HAPPY FOR HER). And when I congratulated her and asked if they planned to have a big wedding so kind kf bit my head off and told me they didn't know because it'll be a few years away (I didn't know any of that). They are also expecting a new baby in December so I'm really excited for her because she's had a rough life and really deserves these great things in her life but I feel like she bit my head off for no reason and now I just don't know how to act/ what to think. Heck, I might even be over thinking it but she's never been like that with me. And no, I don't talk to her much about my wedding stuff and I even ask her how she's doing from time to time just to check in with her because she doesn't seem to reach out to me at all anymore (which is okay because I know she's got a super busy life). I just feel kind of upset that this happened and now I don't know what to think or do 😔

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Latest activity by Casey, on May 12, 2020 at 12:39 AM

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Sarah · on May 11, 2020 at 1:43 PM
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So I can’t speak for your bridesmaid, but I know that when we first got engaged and we called everyone, they ALL asked if we knew when/where it would be and it was kind of overwhelming because we hadn’t finalized many details yet. Perhaps between being pregnant during a pandemic and fielding questions now about the wedding, she was just feeling a lot of pressure when you asked.
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Rebelle Fleur · on May 11, 2020 at 2:03 PM
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Being pregnant is not easy. It may just be hormones. I would have mood swings early on for no apparent reason. Late into my second trimester I was much calmer. She probably didn’t mean it. If her friendship means something to you I’d speak to her about it. Being pregnant is not an excuse for bad behavior but I can contribute to it.
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Grace · on May 11, 2020 at 2:13 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I would give her the benefit of the doubt if for no other reason than the uncertainty of the pandemic. However, that does not excuse her lashing out at you.

You will never know how she is feeling unless you reach out. She might be overthinking things as well and feeling guilty for lashing out at you. Letting her know that her comment hurt but that you understand her situation is one approach.
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Mrs. S · on May 11, 2020 at 2:21 PM
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She’s obviously super stressed. I would just let it go.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Samantha · on May 11, 2020 at 7:26 PM
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I agree with everyone else. When I got engaged I was getting annoyed with people asking me a bunch of questions. I just wanted to enjoy being engaged first before being attacked by questions. It probably wasn't intentional.
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Casey · on May 12, 2020 at 12:39 AM
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I agree- others are mentioning bringing it up but I'd probably ignore it and proceed as usual. Reach out soon (maybe via text?) To check on her, don't mention anything just, "thinking of you today! Hope you're doing good" kinda thing. Now, if it happens again then it's time to talk but for a single time? It was probably an accident and she might not even be aware she did it.
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