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Attire issue with venue switch

Elizabeth, on March 11, 2021 at 1:07 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 12

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So my wedding was originally planned as a large ballroom wedding. Now because of covid it is a small outdoor wedding. FH and I bought our attire before the pandemic. I have a ballgown and he has a tux.

We both really still want to wear our attire (Also we can't really return and exchange it, it's tailored to our bodies). But I'm worried it will look silly at the wedding. I think wearing it to the church ceremony is fine, but the outdoor tented wedding that starts before 6?
To complicate things more, our attire is daytime formal, so FH doesnt think his groomsmen should have to wear tuxes and wants them in blue suits. But he wants to wear his tux.
I'm not sure if I want to find a different dress for the reception. It would be another expense and I don't want to go wedding dress shopping again.
Also FH definitely does NOT want to give up his tux. He spent a good amount on it and is very attached to it now.
Basically I feel like covid has just thrown our whole event attire situation completely out of whack, and it has me worried.
Any advice at all?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on March 12, 2021 at 9:26 AM

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Ava · on March 11, 2021 at 1:22 PM
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If FH feels confident and comfortable in his tux during the outdoor portion of your wedding, then he should go for it! Same with your beautiful ballgown! If you are concerned about it being too hot outside for the attire, you could always have a back up outfit ready for each of you, just in case you get too hot and want to change. You don’t have to get another wedding dress. You could order a beautiful white special occasion dress online so you don’t have to go shopping again and don’t have to spend a huge amount of money. Lulus, Nordstrom (and Nordstrom Rack), Macy’s, Saks, BHLDN all have great, affordable options!
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Tone · on March 11, 2021 at 1:24 PM
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I think it’s perfectly fine to wear your ballgown to an early outdoor ceremony! (I am too) I think if its your dream dress then you don’t absolutely /have/ to match your dress to the venue. My aunt wore an A-line dress to her beach ceremony and it was gorgeous! If it makes you happy do it! I also think it would be fine to have the groomsmen in suits and your FH in a tux he’ll stand out against them, and it sounds like he loves his tux so he should get to wear it!
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Michelle · on March 11, 2021 at 1:25 PM
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Tuxes are not typically worn during except at award shows. However the formality needs to be consistent. If he wears a tux, they wear tuxes. If they wear suits, he wears a suit. Your wedding dress is fine regardless of the time of day.
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Julie · on March 11, 2021 at 2:46 PM
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I hear what you're saying, but I kinda feel like if the bride and groom want to be the snazziest, then that's okay!
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Hanna · on March 11, 2021 at 3:10 PM
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The bride and groom are expected to be the fanciest out of everyone there. I've been to dozens of outdoor weddings with the groom in a tux and the bride in a super fancy ballgown. I wouldn't even bat an eye if the groom were in a tux and his groomsmen were in suits. I'd say go for it!
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Lady · on March 11, 2021 at 3:12 PM
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Girl, wear your dress!! I think you two being fancy is awesome and the guys in suits is great (as long as they haven't also already purchased or rented tuxes!)
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· on March 11, 2021 at 3:12 PM
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I'm all for fancy! I get the concern with it not looking like it flows being an outdoor wedding, but I think the ballgown and tux would still be beautiful outdoors. Our ceremony is outside and we are having very formal, black tie (tux encouraged) attire.
If this is your dream dress, I say you wear it! No matter where you get married. It's your day, it's impossible to stand out too much!
However, I do think if your FH still wants to wear his tux, the groomsmen should too.
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Elizabeth · on March 11, 2021 at 4:33 PM
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Yeah they haven't purchased anything yet!
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Elizabeth · on March 11, 2021 at 4:34 PM
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This was my concern. I have seen the wedding party in suits before with the groom in a tux, but I really am not sure about it.

To complicate things more, his best man already has a tux from a different event that they both thonk the BM should wear. I'm ready to push back against that one though
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Sara · on March 11, 2021 at 11:39 PM
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Girl, wear that ballgown and have your fiance wear that tux! The two of you are the most important people there. You get to wear whatever you want! I've also been to outdoor weddings with the bride in a super fancy ballgown and a groom in a tux. I don't think it would look weird with him in a tux and the groomsmen in suits if that's the route you want to go.
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Griswold · on March 12, 2021 at 8:47 AM
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I'm super into formal wear and very strict about all of the various rules and whatnot. But Covid threw a monkey wrench into everything and sometimes you gotta roll with it. It's absolutely fine for both of you to wear what you were planning to regardless of the venue or time of day. Having the groomsmen wear suits when the groom is wearing a tuxedo is a perfectly reasonable thing to do even in non-pandemic times.
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Elizabeth · on March 12, 2021 at 9:26 AM
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Thank you! This makes me feel so much better
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