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Expert September 2020

Attending July bridal shower

on July 22, 2020 at 1:42 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 14
I RSVP’d to a bridal shower at the end of May, thinking the pandemic would be gone by now or that they would change the date if it was not. Well now the shower is this weekend and they haven’t changed the date. I don’t know how comfortable I am with going. Of course, I’ll still go since it’s rude to say I’m not going this close to it but kinda surprised they haven’t changed the date. And this is coming from someone who has had to make every change under the sun to their own wedding. Has anyone attended a shower recently or is planning to soon?

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Latest activity by Ashley, on July 23, 2020 at 2:56 AM
  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Maybe there is a small attendance and it will be safe. If you're concerned for your safety then I wouldn't attend and graciously send a gift. I don't think anyone would think less of you if you didn't go based on Covid.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I am attending and hosting one next month along with the bridal party I am a part of and I’m not gonna lie I’m not really comfortable with it either but I want to be there for my friend as matron of honor. However if I was a regular guest attending I don’t think I would go.
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  • Chelsea
    Dedicated August 2020
    Chelsea ·
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    I just had my shower Sunday in a drop in style. People came and dropped gifts and grabbed a lunch box. Maybe just show your face a few moments if your not comfortable staying.
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    If you aren’t comfortable I would just call and say so. I think they will understand. Maybe pick another day to drop off your gift so you can still see your friend.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    Not a shower, but I'm attending a graduation party in a couple of weeks and a wedding in August.

    It's up to you if you want to go or not. I don't think people would be upset if you declined due to covid, but tell them asap, as it's already Wednesday. Truthfully you should have let them know last week or so, but it is what it is.

    Perhaps you could go for a bit and wear a mask, if you think that would be preferable?

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  • Chelsea
    Expert July 2021
    Chelsea ·
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    Im sure your not the only one that feels this way. Depends on where you are at and state. Im in ohio and just went to a wedding last weekend. It was weird. Wore a mask the whole time my choice and the halls but than at one point at night drunk people took them off. Didnt feel to good being around that. Even with the dance floor being outside....

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    If you aren't comfortable, I would call and ask what precautions they're taking. They may have done a lot behind the scenes to make sure physical distancing will happen, providing masks, etc. Maybe calling and talking to them will help you decide what to do?

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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    My mom still held my shower last month after it had already been postponed once. It was a small guest list (about 20 or so people), she moved everything outdoors, sat tables over 6' apart, had disposable serving ware/etc., and had masks if people wanted to wear them and didn't bring their own. I had a couple people who couldn't make it due to not feeling comfortable, which was absolutely understandable and I harbor absolutely zero hard feelings. I'd say do what makes you feel comfortable. If you're not comfortable attending, maybe drop off a gift with a heartfelt note ahead of the shower. I can't imagine anyone would be upset with you not attending because you don't feel comfortable being in a group of people.

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  • Karissa
    Beginner September 2020
    Karissa ·
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    I have attended a shower a month ago and just got back from a bachelorette party this past weekend. I think that everyones comfort level is different and i don't believe anyone will be upset if you respectively decline. I also am having my bachelorette party next weekend and getting married sept 12. I sent a heartfelt message out to everyone letting them know whatever choice they make we will understand! Don't go if you will feel uncomfortable this is uncertain times for all

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  • R
    Super September 2018
    Rachel ·
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    I’ve been invited to two baby showers recently, one in person and one virtual. I’m not comfortable with the in person one (hosted by a number of women and I just don’t know enough of the invitees well enough to know their social distancing behaviors throughout the pandemic, etc) so I mailed a card and gift card to the mom-to-be. For the virtual one we’re to mail gifts and then will do a little get together on Zoom.
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  • Tee
    Dedicated October 2021
    Tee ·
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    Yes, I think most people will understand how you feel, if you let them know. I’m sure you are not alone. I recently skipped my MOH’s birthday party, because I didn’t feel safe. She was very understanding. I think we all just have to be mindful of different comfort levels. I would just keep the lines of communication open.
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  • K
    Devoted August 2020
    Kate ·
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    My mom hosted my shower this month in her backyard. She has a lot of space and we had 50 people (the max allowed in our state right now.) It worked out so wonderfully and I think a big part of it was that it was outdoors, we had hand sanitizers as a favor for everyone, and we had a bartender and food servers to dish out food so people weren’t having to touch the same bottles, utensils, etc. I honestly couldn’t have asked for a better day. I’d ask the specific plans before making the commitment to go, in order to see if you would feel better knowing the precautions, if any, being taken. If that doesn’t help than I would send a gift as previous posters have suggested.
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  • Marcia
    Expert March 2021
    Marcia ·
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    I'm attending a 15 person shower next weekend. Several of the attendees already had the virus in the first wave in March. It's outside and catered. Not feeling nervous about going at all
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    Super October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    I personally would respectfully decline. It may be close to the event date, but these are not ordinary circumstances. I’m sure the host(s) and bride will understand!


    I’m a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding and hosting her shower along with her mom. I’m including Covid inserts in the invitations that basically say circumstances may change and include our state’s guidelines and restrictions. While we are planning for social distancing, masks, being outside and hiring a bartender (so only one other person touches the bottles), I am still extremely nervous! If I was invited as a guest and not the one hosting, I wouldn’t go. I love my friend, but we’re still in the middle of a pandemic.
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