Hi,
Not sure where to put this question, but I've been invited to one of my good friend's wedding taking place in California, I'm located on the east coast. I'm debating whether it would be bad form if I didn't attend, primarily due to costs. The backstory is that this friend attended my wedding a year ago in our hometown, she flew cross country for my wedding, but since it was in our hometown, she spent a few extra days visiting and staying with her family and hanging out. For her wedding, I'll be making a similar trip (in the opposite direction), but will only be staying a night or two for her wedding only. With the costs of airfare, hotel and car, I'll probably spend more than this friend did to attend my wedding, and I'll also be giving a monetary gift since I know she's paying for the wedding herself. While I can afford it, it's still a lot of money. Would it be bad form not to attend? I'll probably still send a nice card and small gift if I didn't go.
