Attending a wedding = supporting the wedding?

I agree with you.

I agree, attending a wedding is to show your support for the couple and their marriage.

I believe attending attending a wedding is supporting the couple's marriage.

I would like to think that if a person takes time out of their weekend, spends money on a gift, shows up and celebrates with you, it would be considered supporting? In any case, always send a Thank You, only I dont think it should be so literal, a simple Thank you for attending would suffice

I agree: you can support the marriage without having the same religious beliefs.

I agree with you - if you attend a wedding it should be an indication of support. There was a wedding that I refused to attend because I did not support the union (particularly the groom) and I didn't feel right going because I felt like my presence would have been hypocritical.

I agree. Those that don't support our union are not coming to our wedding. (ss couple) I have actually asked my parents to put all that aside for me to just be there for me and hold my hand through it even if they don't support it. They won't be but I'd appreciate if they did.

Attending a wedding is showing your support for their union. I do not think I could attend a wedding that I did not support. With that being said, I believe that having different religious beliefs does not necessarily mean that you do not support their marriage. I could not attend a wedding where I know their is any type of abuse, cheating, or any other degrading activities going on. I understand that it would be their choice to try and make their marriage work, but for me personally, I could not support this.

I would not attend a wedding celebration if I did not support the union.

I get that she is nervous. But does she really want people in her life that didn't support her lifestyle? One thing that wedding planning has shown me is the people I really want in my life.

Those who don't attend may still support you but are just unable to come.

Is she worried about someone standing up when they ask "if anyone knows why these tow should not be married..." cause you don't have to say that- you can take it out- I just wrote my entire wedding from start to finish (except his vows) - I will have the officiant review and personalize it to her voice- but I decided what I want said.

Attending the wedding means that you support the couple. Anyone who is strongly offended by your conversion to Catholicism has the right to skip it.

I also converted and I understand what you mean about all of the negative attitudes about Catholicism. We will be including a worship aid with some background information about the Catholic sacrament of marriage. I'm hoping the guests will enjoy our meaningful and traditional ceremony. If not....oh well.

I would say it is. If I didn't support a marriage, I wouldn't attend.

Re: what Karen said, the "does anyone know any reason" question actually has a historical basis in Protestant churches, NOT Catholic tradition. The question originated from the fact that the Protestant churches didn't keep great records, and they wouldn't necessarily know whether one of the parties to the marriage had already been married elsewhere. Catholic Church record keeping is meticulous, therefore this question is unnecessary at a Catholic wedding.

Are you having a full mass? I only ask because you will need to prep your family for not being able to partake in communion. This will be the most foreign aspect.

I grew up in a rare southern town that was half baptist and half catholic. The bishop lost the war against interfaith marriage in the 1990s and my Protestant family members were all kinds of overwrought after attending their first catholic weddings. Some took communion and were admonished by the priest afterwards. Others tried to take it and were stopped by family in the pew and got mad at those people for embarrassing them. Others had no idea wine would actually be served and to children no less.

I know lots of people who have converted for a spouse and usually the real issue isn't the unfamiliarity but the family thinking their child turned his/her back on them in favor of another family/religion. But making sure what you consider common knowledge is explained to the Protestant guests will help.

Yes you're completely right. Tell her that the most important person will definitely be there supporting her- and that's you

Yes, I agree with you.

@baletica- we are in the same boat, ss couple and my parents won't be attending either. It sucks, but what can ya do?

I agree. Attending is supporting. If people don't support YOU, they can simply decline. If the religious implications also cause people to decline- well...I would be hurt over that. Because it's true- they should be attending for me. Not my beliefs personally (or theirs). My wedding is in a church. Most of our guests are not members of this church or denomination- but that is where our CEREMONY is occurring, that's it. You get to dictate that. Only you. The reception is a thank you to the guests but the ceremony reflects you- and people are able to attend without full-on taking part in something they're not comfortable with (i.e. Communion for ex)

Attending= supporting.

I also converted, and my family is exclusively Protestant. FH was raised Catholic, but his family has mostly left the church. My immediate family understands (my parents joke that they raised 4 Presbyterian children...who are now Catholic, Episcopalian, Lutheran, and Baptist), but my extended family is going to be a little confused. But they love me and support me, so they're coming.

IMO, attending = supporting. But if someone in her family has said something to her, your FW may not feel that way. I'd counsel being as supportive as you can here. Sometimes, someone can say something well-meaning but it comes across as incredibly hurtful. When I converted, my grandmother wrote me a long letter making sure I still loved Jesus...I thought she was angry at me until last Christmas, when FH and I had just gotten engaged and she told us how grateful she was that we shared our faith and how much she wished she could witness our ceremony. Unfortunately, she passed last month, but knowing she felt that way means a lot to me.