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Attending a wedding during a family birthday

Future Mrs. T, on May 19, 2020 at 8:25 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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Hi all, so my FH and I are invited to his very close friends’ wedding for next year. They’ve known each other since elementary school and the bride since high school. They were all friends before he even met me. Their wedding is scheduled for the weekend of my mother’s birthday.

They’re of course invited to our wedding and I just feel bad if they come to ours but I can’t go to theirs. Would it be ok if just my FH went? Or not at all to celebrate my mom’s birthday. Granted I know how the situation is now but the thought just crossed my mind and I don’t know what to do.

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Latest activity by Future Mrs. T, on May 22, 2020 at 7:18 PM

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FirstTimeMOB · on May 19, 2020 at 8:35 PM
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Me? I'd go to the wedding...
If my own daughter told me that a friend was getting married the weekend of my birthday, I wouldn't hesitate to tell her to go and enjoy the celebration...we could celebrate my birthday another time.
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Hanna · on May 19, 2020 at 9:27 PM
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I'd go to the wedding. Birthdays happen every year; weddings happen once. You can always celebrate your mom's birthday a different time. I could never imagine my mom wanting me to skip out on a wedding because of her birthday
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Chris · on May 19, 2020 at 9:41 PM
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I would go to the wedding. Your FH shouldn’t have to miss it or have to attend the wedding without you. Being this is your FH’s super close friend means their wedding should be just as important to you. I am sure your mother will be understanding. You can have a very special 1 on 1 celebration with your mother the weekend after, take her out for a spa day then dinner etc. A wedding is once in a lifetime but birthdays occur each year.
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Judith · on May 19, 2020 at 10:26 PM
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You can celebrate a birthday the weekend before or days before. Weddings are not flexible, and only happen once. U less there were a family reunion of like a 100 people to celebrate grandma's 90th, There is no birthday I would miss a wedding for .
If your mom likes to go to the theatre, concerts, a comedy show, anything with friends, it might be nice to celebrate the weekend before with her, and give her a gift certificate for dinner, and some kind of show tickets, for 2, that she can invite a friend or other family to.
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Leslie · on May 20, 2020 at 12:13 AM
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I think you should celebrate Moms birthday a different day and go to wedding. You can still celebrate with mom before or after.
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Melle · on May 20, 2020 at 12:30 PM
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I think you can go to the wedding too. however, i also actually think it's ok if he is comfortable going alone. i am not the type that necessarily thinks just cause both of you are invited means both absolutely have to go.
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Jana · on May 20, 2020 at 9:33 PM
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Go to the wedding. Celebrate with your mom on another day.
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