Attending a wedding during a family birthday

Me? I'd go to the wedding...

If my own daughter told me that a friend was getting married the weekend of my birthday, I wouldn't hesitate to tell her to go and enjoy the celebration...we could celebrate my birthday another time.

I'd go to the wedding. Birthdays happen every year; weddings happen once. You can always celebrate your mom's birthday a different time. I could never imagine my mom wanting me to skip out on a wedding because of her birthday

I would go to the wedding. Your FH shouldn’t have to miss it or have to attend the wedding without you. Being this is your FH’s super close friend means their wedding should be just as important to you. I am sure your mother will be understanding. You can have a very special 1 on 1 celebration with your mother the weekend after, take her out for a spa day then dinner etc. A wedding is once in a lifetime but birthdays occur each year.

You can celebrate a birthday the weekend before or days before. Weddings are not flexible, and only happen once. U less there were a family reunion of like a 100 people to celebrate grandma's 90th, There is no birthday I would miss a wedding for .
If your mom likes to go to the theatre, concerts, a comedy show, anything with friends, it might be nice to celebrate the weekend before with her, and give her a gift certificate for dinner, and some kind of show tickets, for 2, that she can invite a friend or other family to.

I think you should celebrate Moms birthday a different day and go to wedding. You can still celebrate with mom before or after.

I think you can go to the wedding too. however, i also actually think it's ok if he is comfortable going alone. i am not the type that necessarily thinks just cause both of you are invited means both absolutely have to go.

Go to the wedding. Celebrate with your mom on another day.

Thanks for all of your input!