Assigned seats or no

Girl, the same thing happened to me. I was so set on not doing assigned seating, but then I kept reading everyone's comments on posts about seating charts and totally changed my mind. Just remember that the table assignments really are just for the meal, so it won't be a huge deal to your guests. Just do table assignments so you know everyone has his/her place, and then let them arrange themselves at the table how they want to.

I see no need to assign seats, but I think not assigning tables is a mistake. At a minimum, you will need at least 10% additional seating (and centerpieces, tablecloths, etc.) so couples do not get separated. Maybe more like 20% if kids invited.

Only giving reserved tables to immediate family and wedding party can create hard feelings. The aunt who always thought she was like family, the godmother, etc may have to be told, NO, you do not get to sit here. It will be easier if she is told, I we have you at table 8.

A seating chart just avoids not needed chaos. As others have said assign tables but not actual seats. Also, seat people with people you know they like and will talk to. All the weddings I have been to have always had assigned tables and no one was ever upset about it that I knew of at least. Plus people are only sitting there for the entrances, dances, toasts, and dinner. Otherwise they will be up dancing any mingling anyway.

My mom and grandma thought a seating chart was absolutely stupid and unnecessary as well. However, it is something I always appreciate at weddings so I did it anyway and it worked out great. Everyone had a place to sit, we didn't have to add extra tables and everyone had a "home base" of sorts to keep purses and whatever. If you think it's a good idea, do it.

I'm doing assigned tables. And I've been to a few weddings recently where seating was assigned. It didn't bother me. I say go for it.