Assigned seating

Yes. You need them for so many reasons. My main reason I give every time this type of thread rolls around.. I personally don't want my southern redneck papaw ending up seated next to one of my liberal gay couples

Yes. You don't need to assign seats but assign tables for everyone.

Because most weddings traditionally have assigned seating, it is very confusing for guests to come to a wedding, looking for a seat assignment to find none, and this may be especially uncomfortable if there are a couple 'reserved' tables for immediate family. I wouldn't necessarily say people would have a "problem" but it's expected that there will be assigned seats, which also ensures couples or families will be able to sit together and with people they would get along with (there may not be enough space at a table without assigned seating).

You need to assign tables.

You can assign tables instead of every single seat. If you don't have a seating chart you'll probably end up with some chaos - people moving chairs around, couples not being able to sit with each other, etc. Making a seating chart really isn't that hard and it wouldn't take too long. It's definitely worth all of the time it takes.

I'm with your FH on this one! Assigned tables, at least, are so important. You don't want couples split up or Gramma seated right next to the DJ.

You need to assign tables. It's not a "who has problems" thing; it's a "ensuring you have seats for couples and families to sit together" thing. FH is right here.

It is terrible not to assign tables to all. You are basically saying that only VIPs get reserved seating. Do they also get better wine and food? I hope not. This is worse than no one getting assigned tables (which yes, is pretty bad and yes will have couples split up, families split, people moving chairs, guests being told, sorry we are saving these seats), because you will be telling some people that they are not important.

Assigned seats? No. Assigned tables? ABSOLUTELY!!

Yes, have assigned seats. It makes everyone's life easier (except yours).

Definitely assign the tables. But not the seats - the last wedding we went to was down to the seat and I didn't like it, I would have preferred to sit next to the friends that were across the table but whatever. Definitely tables. A free for all can end up uncomfortable for your guests.

Okay, first of all, none of your guests need to "get over themselves." That's a very disrespectful phrase that you're applying to your alleged nearest and dearest.

Secondly, do you know what happens when there are no assigned tables? Families get split up because there aren't enough chairs at any table. John and Jane walk in and find only one chair at every table. They can't sit together. Or Aunt Suzie walks around awkwardly because the only people she knows are all sitting together and there are no other chairs at their table, so she walks around like the girl who doesn't know anyone on the first day of middle school trying to find a seat at a table at lunch. It's just an unpleasant experience.

Assign tables. No need to assign seats.

Your FH is correct. You need to assign tables.

Assigning tables only to your family and not to everyone else is a bizarre idea to begin with. Wedding etiquette exists for a reason. It's tried and true.

Definitely assign tables. We are assigning seats to make my life easier.

I went to a wedding that had what you want to do. My FH and a few of the other guys basically saved some seats for all of us to sit together by putting their jackets on the backs of chairs, other people threw them on the ground because it was an empty table and they wanted to sit together. Also, one couple at our table that we eventually sat at shared a chair as each table had 8 seats and the table behind us had about 11 people sitting at it so tables were jacked up, it is also nice to know you will be sitting with people you know rather than strangers because you were the last one into the room.

Perhaps you should get over yourself and make a seating chart.

And for like the millionth time ever: seating chart=/=exact assigned seats.

Yes you definitely need to assign tables! You don't want your guests to have to worry where they are sitting and if they know the people at the table

Hes because ppl cant figure out for themselves how to fill every seat and some will put their coats/bags on empty chairs and make them look filled.

Please assign tables. As said above...there can be some people at weddings who are just better off not mingling! Or too shy and need a good seating chart to help them find people to break the ice with

I would suggest at least assigned tables

Assign table please. One of my friends is having a "sit where ever you'd like, food stations open at 6pm" kind of policy and I'm already dreading trying to jump on a table to fit my friend group of 10.