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Asking your Bridesmaids

Nicole, on November 21, 2019 at 9:08 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

Most of the girls I am asking to be my bridesmaids are in my fiancé’s family. With the Holidays coming up I will probably ask them then. I am wondering should I all ask them at the same time, take them aside separately and ask the same day, or spread it out and ask 1 person per day/ each time I see them (for example one on Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year’s etc ?). Please let me know your thoughts


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Latest activity by LaQuita, on November 25, 2019 at 11:45 AM
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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    I would say same day! If you ask one now and don't ask the other until later and they are close, then someone could feel left out.

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    Master January 2015
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    I would ask them all around the same time so word doesn't get out that some have been asked and others haven't. But I would also wait until at least 9-12 months until your wedding before asking anyone.

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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    Ask them all at the same time. It will make it easier and make sure there are no hurt feelings if you ask one before the rest. Especially if they talk to one another and find out one was asked but not the rest.

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    I agree there is likely less chance of hurt feelings if you ask them all in the same timeframe, but I would ask each individually -- not as a group -- in case someone has to decline. A "public ask" can put unnecessary pressure on someone who might prefer to attend as a guest feeling like they have to say "yes." Also, I agree with pp about waiting to ask anyone until you're under a year; so much can change, even with family members (e.g., pregnancies, divorces, relocations, etc.). There is no downside to waiting until you are much closer to the wedding.

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  • Vannesa
    Expert October 2021
    Vannesa ·
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    Same day! That way they all know.

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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    If it's convenient for you to do the same day, that would be super cute

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  • Future Mrs. B
    Devoted August 2020
    Future Mrs. B ·
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    Ask them all at the same time. Good luck!

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  • LaQuita
    Savvy November 2020
    LaQuita ·
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    I'd ask them all on the same day, but would pull them aside separately to have a more personal conversation with each of them.
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