ASKING YOUR BRIDE TRIBE

I did right away like 3 weeks after so 11 months away from the wedding

6-8 months prior to your date. You are way too ahead of yourself.

A lot can change in 2 years and once you ask you are stuck.

Not until 6-8 months before the wedding. Relationships change, and with your date being two years away you literally have no idea who you will be close with then.

And yes I'm sure your "tribe" (seriously, who started this quite frankly offensive verbiage for groups of friends??) will still be intact exactly how it is at this moment FOREVER, but, stuff happens so please just wait.

I agree with all of you ladies - 6 months.

I told my two cousins they would be BM's right after we got engaged. A year ahead. It wasn't a big deal. They knew long before I got engaged.

There are those you know will be a part of your wedding party. Building a tribe? As of today, your wedding is over two years away. It's far too early to ask anyone. Hang around and read the posts from brides who are four to six weeks away from their wedding and want to fire their attendants.

I know it's exciting, but putting together a bridal party at this stage is premature.

There are those you know will be a part of your wedding party. Building a tribe? As of today, your wedding is over two years away. It's far too early to ask anyone. Hang around and read the posts from brides who are four to six weeks away from their wedding and want to fire their attendants.

I know it's exciting, but putting together a bridal party at this stage is premature.

As soon as i knew who i wanted it to be...make aure your sure before asking

I asked about 12 months before, two months after the proposal.

2 years may be too long to ask, people's obligations may change.. for example your bridesmaid may have a really bad financial burden or move across country for a job.

I don't really agree with relationships changing thing... the people in my party as friends for life, and have already been my friends for most of my life (the youngest relationship I have with one of my BM is 12 years) I wouldn't ask someone to be a BM if I was iffy of their relationship w me

I would wait until you have a budget, guest list rough draft, venue picked out. You don't have an official date until your venue is booked

I asked a year out. However, my girls are all very close family, FSIL and my best friend for 30 years. I also asked because I knew it was going to be more difficult for some more than others to travel and save. The dresses also take 5 months to come in so I didn't think the 6 month rule was fair. I think 8 months is a pretty good timeframe.

I asked one of mine(BFF) straight away it was summer and had a 2 1/2 engagement, I asked the second girl (my cousin) when she came home for Christmas and said she'd be over for the wedding, I had said since I was 14 that they would be my bridesmaids (I was 33 when I got married), also its different here in the sense that the bridal party don't put thier hands in the pocket for anything relating to the wedding so I didn't need to worry if they could afford it as we were paying. Ok my cousin did have flights to pay for, hence I waited until I knew she was coming, even though if she couldn't have afforded the flights I would have tried to sort something out to get her over. But being honest with everything I read here, I would hold off a while if I were you. There is no rush.

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Definitely wait! Unfortunately relationships can change- I've seen too many brides on here with bridesmaid regrets

I've been friends with two of mine since early elementary school (25+ years), three of them for 7-10 years, and the other is my sister & we get along great. I had full faith nothing would happen to make me regret asking any of them, and I waited til about 9 months out.

Worry first about your vision for the wedding- if you end up doing something small, you may not even want a full wedding party!

And congratulations!!!

I did it right away like 2 months after being engaged

I asked like early in March. Only have two, my sister and cousin so I was 100 % sure.

Please hang out on the forums for at least 2 months before you ask your bridesmaids. Why? Because you'll see warning posts about why you should wait to ask your BP until it's closer to the wedding. You think you're immune to the bridal party drama now because you've known these people forever or they're family, you've been through hell together and nothing can possibly change your relationship... yeah, well so did the people you will see with horror stories. 20plus year friendships gone to hell, family members wreaking havoc on wedding plans... it happens. Everyone thinks they're the exception. Please stick around and see for yourself, and wait to ask your BP.

I asked mine pretty much right away. It made me feel more grounded and all 3 knew they were going to be in my wedding before I got engaged due to the nature of our relationships.

I did mine a year out because all but one of mine will have to travel so I wanted to give them time to save for the flight

I asked my girls 8 months out, and it was a perfect amount of time, I think.