Hi all,
I am planning to ask my two bests friends, my cousin, and 3 of FH's female cousins to be bridesmaids over the holidays since I'll get to see most of them in person. One of FH's cousins is only 16 and I'm not sure if I should ask his aunt and uncle if it is okay before asking her. I'm not expecting any of my bridesmaids to do plan any parties or do anything other than show up on the day of the wedding in the attire selected (I will ask them budgets beforehand or just let them pick whatever they want in our wedding colors). I'm just not sure how his aunt and uncle will react since they will likely need to help her with her dress. I asked FH about it and he said it was fine to ask her without asking his aunt and uncle, but I'm nervous about doing that. My FMIL and his aunt had some issues back in September and we haven't seen his aunt and uncle since (we generally get together with FH's side of the family once a month for dinner). I love his aunt, but sometimes she can be a bit dramatic about things.
I'm just not sure what to do. On one hand, I don't want to offend his aunt and uncle by not speaking to them first, but on the other I'm a bit nervous his aunt would say no. I can't imagine our day without this cousin standing up as a bridesmaid. FH and I have known each other since we were teenagers and she was 3 years old when he introduced me to his family. I have always adored her very much and have a close relationship with her. It wouldn't feel right to have the 2 older female cousins from FH's side (one of which is her older sister) and not her as well.
Sorry that was so long. Thanks for reading! Any advice is appreciated.
