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Beginner March 2021

Asking to cover tattoos offensive?

C, on March 12, 2020 at 12:12 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 56

Hello everyone . I am getting married March 20, 2021 and I wanted to know if you all would find it offensive to ask someone to cover their tattoos as a bridesmaid ? I will be covering two of mine, but i have at least one bridesmaid who has quite a bit of them including large tattoos on her fingers...
Hello everyone . I am getting married March 20, 2021 and I wanted to know if you all would find it offensive to ask someone to cover their tattoos as a bridesmaid ? I will be covering two of mine, but i have at least one bridesmaid who has quite a bit of them including large tattoos on her fingers and hands and arms and I believe they will take away from the dress and my photos.

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  • Kelsi
    Expert June 2020
    Kelsi ·
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    I love my tattoos. I love my friends/family. I hope my friends/family love me, tattoos and all. I would be hurt and probably have to back out if I was asked to cover mine.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    Yes, that is rude.

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  • Melissa
    Savvy July 2020
    Melissa ·
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    I agree - unless they are racial or inappropriate then it is extremely rude to ask them to be covered up. That’s someone’s body!
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  • Jade
    Beginner October 2021
    Jade ·
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    She replies like to everyone on here. lol

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  • Deb
    Dedicated October 2018
    Deb ·
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    I have a few tattoos that I love but I know they aren’t for everyone. For my own event I wouldn’t cover them. If a friend asked me to cover them for their wedding I would do it without a problem.

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  • Vicky
    Super January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Yes, it's offensive to ask someone to cover their tattoos.

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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    You may choose a dress with lace or cloth sleeves if you like, or a high neckline , for all. But not choose bare arm dresses and ask people to cover tattoos or scars. Their bodies, their choice. Same as hair, makeup and facial hair. Bride or groom only pick dresses or suits .
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  • P
    January 2014
    Pam ·
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    If they're lewd, swearing, really offensive, then yes, I'd require them to be covered.

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  • Nikki
    Expert March 2021
    Nikki ·
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    I see where you are coming in the post but it I was me in the Bm shoes and the bride asked me to cover mine I would be pissed 😤. As mine are very meaningful. I would probably drop from the wedding or just unhappy, is there away the dress could be altered not reveal the tattoos as much?
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  • D
    Beginner June 2020
    Desiree ·
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    Please dont let others hostility make you feel bad. I posted in this once and got so much negative feedback from a simple yes or no question. It is your wedding and I feel that you can ask that. If my friend request me to cover my tattoos for their wedding I would because I respect that it is their day.
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  • Tia
    Savvy April 2021
    Tia ·
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    Are her tattoos offensive? If not, then it's totally rude. Why is she your bridesmaid if you don't accept her as she is?

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  • Sierra
    Beginner May 2021
    Sierra ·
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    I don’t think it’s rude! I would want to do whatever made the bride happy if I was a bridesmaid! Especially if you feel it will take away from you
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  • Sierra
    Beginner May 2021
    Sierra ·
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    I agree with you completely
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  • Michelle
    Savvy September 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I find that to be offensive... it's her body. If you don't want her to ruin your vision, you shouldn't have asked her to be your bridesmaid...

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  • Katie
    Savvy July 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi! Congratulations! This isn’t the answer you are likely looking for, but I absolutely find it 100% unambiguously offensive for a bride to ask a bridesmaid to cover her tattoos. My tattoos don’t show, so this isn’t even personal. I just believe in accepting people as they are, and I think friendships are more important than aesthetics. Their tattoos are a reflection of themselves, the people you asked to be in your bridal party, and it feels insulting to ask them to cover that up. That is a decision they should make for themselves.
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  • Kristen
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Kristen ·
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    I had the realization the other day that my bestie has tattoos. I had not even thought about it. Hers are beautiful watercolors, one on each arm representing the two little girls she lost. For this I would never ask her to cover them up, but the random one on her foot that has no meaning I’d feel okay about asking her to find shoes that cover it. If someone has tattoos just to have tattoos and understands why you want them covered I think they would be receptive. If the tattoos have meaning like a connection to a lost one then that is part of them. I know this doesn’t answer one way or the other but I hope it helps.
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