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Just Said Yes February 2020

Asking parents of misbehaving children to leave

Melissa , on July 16, 2019 at 10:58 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 14

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So we are getting married in February. Our wedding is at a condo, and the reception is on the roof. I love the children in my family more than I think I could love my future kids lol they are my everything. Unfortunately, some of them are very wild. My FH doesn’t want kids at all, but that isn’t an option.

So so we want to put on the wedding invite somehow very politely “if your kids can’t behave, you’ll be asked to leave”. It’s on a roof and we don’t want anyone hurt. Also, it’s our day. We don’t want to be worrying about anyone’s kids when we should be having the best day of our life’s.

Has anyone done this? Can someone help me out!

Thank you!

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Allie · on July 16, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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I don't think there is a tactful way to put this on an invitation. You could have a disclaimer on your website that the event is on a rooftop so there can be no running/horseplay by the children.
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Sarah · on July 16, 2019 at 11:02 AM
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As a mom, I’d rather you just not invite my kid than insinuate that I don’t know how to parent, which is exactly what you’ll be doing with that message.
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Melissa · on July 16, 2019 at 11:04 AM
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That’s a great idea! I’ll just of course put my website on my invite and just say for the safety, please no running and all that! Glad you thought of that, thank you!
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Melle · on July 16, 2019 at 11:05 AM
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I don't think there's a way for you to word that. I'd like to think that the parents would discipline though.
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Melissa · on July 16, 2019 at 11:07 AM
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Melle, i really hope that parents do. But that isn’t always the case lol
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MrsD · on July 16, 2019 at 11:22 AM
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I wouldn't say this at all, you'll offend people for sure. I was worried about this in the early stages of planning, but as we got closer I realized it was out of my hands since we invited children. Our venue has a kids room, we hired a nanny service to hangout from 5-8 PM in there in case the kids want to use it but it certainly isn't required. Kids are seated by their parents during the reception, not at a kids table. Our DOC will quietly ask parents to take their kids to the kids room if they are screaming and running around during the ceremony or speeches but I don't anticipate that happening.
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Kelly · on July 16, 2019 at 11:27 AM
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There's no way to say that because it's generally not considered polite.
I'd just make a point on the invitation and website that because it's a roof no running or horseplay allowed. Remind everyone at the start with an announcement we are on a rooftop and can't tolerate wild behavior, guests who are too active will be asked to leave. That also covers you incase someone gets sloppy drunk, you don't want that on a rooftop either!
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LB · on July 16, 2019 at 11:49 AM
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Goodness, please don't put that. It's so rude, you're basically telling people that you have no faith in their ability to parent their own children. You're better off just not inviting kids if you're that worried about it.
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Pamela · on July 16, 2019 at 12:16 PM
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I have a couple of kids whose parents I want there but the kid cannot behave. I had a conversation with the parents early on before invites that it was really important to me that they be there, but I couldn't have the stress of that child and their behavior on that day and would they mind having a sitter. Thankfully they understood and he and little brother are staying with Grandma. Older sister is fine without them so she's coming. Now my sister and her kids....still working on that one.
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Danielle · on July 16, 2019 at 12:55 PM
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I agree with this 100%. Plus, you will be SO BUSY on your actual day, that you won't even notice what the children are or aren't doing.
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Sara · on July 16, 2019 at 1:59 PM
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Have you looked into hiring/arranging child care? I 100% agree with your point, but I don’t think there’s a tactful way to work that on your invitations unfortunately. It sounds like your venue isn’t very kid friendly, so not having them there at all sounds like the better option.
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Lady · on July 16, 2019 at 3:29 PM
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This exactly.
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Sandy Yoga · on July 16, 2019 at 4:16 PM
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I agree. And I always take my son home / away if he is misbehaving at an event. I don’t need to be micromanaged.
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Katelyn · on July 16, 2019 at 5:10 PM
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I know you said you love the kids in your family but is it too late to just have an adults only reception to avoid any possible issue?
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