Asking for toasts?

Parents, and best friends. Keep em simple or everyone will have something to say. You wanna get to the party.

I went to a wedding where everyone was allowed to do a toast. It was miserable. I kid you not, toasts lasted for 45 minutes. Anyways, My dad, my maid of honor, my bridesmaid, FH Best man, and his dad are giving toasts for us.

Should I ask if they want to toast?

My MOH is giving a toast, but writing it together with my BMs.
I'm also positive that FMIL will want to give a toast as well.
For my MOH / BMs, I told them it wasnt necessary and they could decline, but I needed to know if they're giving a toast so that the dj can work out the logistics of the microphone and such. Then they told me it was already being written! Lol

View Quoted Comment I would ask a couple people. We're having parent toasts at the welcome dinner and just BM, MOH at the wedding.

I was MOH in my best friend's wedding and no one ever mentioned toasts to me so I figured they weren't doing it. Cut to me being called up by name at the reception with nothing prepared.

Our maid of honor and best man will Gove toasts as well as my dad. Although my dad knows there's a speech expected it's become tradition that my mom writes his speech out on a napkin right before haha. But they make for great keepsakes!

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Thanks! We have a few in mind and I will just ask if this is something they would be interested in and that way we can put them in the schedule. I don't want them to feel like they have to. I just didn't want to come off as rude.

Yes I think it's fine to ask a couple of people if they would like to give a toast. You could ask one of your parents and one of your good friends. Just explain that they don't have to do it but you're trying to get your timeline worked out so need to know if they're interested.

View Quoted Comment I went ahead and asked and I received replies of yes! That was fast and I was overthinking for nothing. One task done!

Thank you all!

Unless our parents want to give a toast, no one will be doing one at our wedding.

While I agree that it's a little awkward to ask, your DOC is definitely right. I went to a wedding where the MOH and BM made speeches on a whim and then basically passed the mic around and probably 75% of the guests gave short "speeches." It was AWFUL. I would ask your parents, siblings, and very best friends. Make sure they know there's no pressure to write one, but that your coordinator was asking for timeline purposes.

4-5 people is way too many. I've never seen more than 3 toasts at a wedding, and it's usually the father of the bride, best man, and maid of honor. If you're not having a wedding party, I would see if either a sibling or best friend would like to give a toast. I think it would be an honor to be asked, so you shouldn't feel weird about it.

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I always say, if you don't ask, you won't know!

Good for you!

We had MOH and BM only - then my brother asked to speak a few words, was perfect!