Asking for a friend need an opinion

Honestly, from just what you’ve written, it sounds like they’re not on the same life plan. He only did the relationship and communal living because she pestered him. Does she really want him to marry her because she pushed him? To me, that’s a sure fire way to breed resentment. If they are looking for different futures, then as hard as it is (trust me, I ended a 10 year relationship because of those differences), she needs to move on.

Hi ! Well, of course she wants a commitment and marriage, most of us do... But some guys or not so into it... I know those who are together for years, have kids,and they are still not in a rush... So it all depends on what your friend is planning to do. Is it being a couple or being a family...? If the latter, well, time flies for us women, so... it would be a good thing to know if the guy is a father material or not, for example...

They have different life plans. She wants to be married and he doesn’t. He has only agreed because as you said she pressed and pressed until he gave in. That is not normal or healthy. No one is going to be honest that they feel bullied into marriage. No one should have a deadline for a ring before they move on. That’s not how love and relationships work. You both agree and are on the same page together or you are in a “relationship” because you feel there’s no alternative. What you are describing is the second option and they need to reevaluate everything and wait for the right person for each of them. Many couples spend decades together without ever getting married but it’s a choice since they are compatible in all ways. These two are not.

I second this! You shouldn’t have to push for commitment & I personally wouldn’t want to stay with someone that needed pushing. Not because it’s not worth it to wait, but because they clearly don’t seem to be on the same page

It would be good to know his reasons with a little back story.

He's given every signal that he's not wanting this. She should go by what he's doing and not what he's saying. It's pretty clear even from the little information provided.

Move on. Seriously

If I were her I’d move on. He’s made it clear he’s not interested in marriage. When people show you who they are you have to believe them.

I think it's easy for others to say it's time to walk away, but it's not easy. After only 2 years, my life was so intertwined with my fiances that I couldn't just walk away even if I wanted to (which I didn't and still don't!). I think she needs to really do some soul searching and figure out what she wants in life. If it's kids, she needs to make that a priority. There would be nothing worse than getting to the point where it's too late and you look back on your life with regrets.

If it's simply marriage, she needs to get to the root of him dragging his feet. It seems like maybe he has been hurt before or is completely oblivious to her needs. Maybe there needs to be compromise here on both parts. Maybe a promise ring will do for now OR maybe he doesn't want a wedding. Relationships are about to give and take.

I agree that it may be time for her to move on. While being together for 6 years is a long time and it'll definitely be a process for her to move out and move on, it truly doesn't seem like they want the same things. If he's open to a serious heart to heart and is willing to be honest with her about what he wants and what his thoughts are, then maybe they can come up with a way to work this out. But she doesn't deserve to have to push to get married or take certain steps in a relationship and he doesn't deserve to be pushed to do things if that's not what he wants in life.