Asking Couples to be in Wedding Party???

I would personalize it to them and what's going on in their lives. Are they moving soon? Did they have a baby recently? Or did someone graduate from college?

For instance, my brother and his fiancé will be finishing construction on their new home by the time our wedding rolls around. My FH and I decided we're going to give them a housewarming gift, maybe a nice piece of art.

I just sent cards. I don't think gifts are necessary to ask, just thank you gifts at the rehearsal dinner.

I agree with this

I asked people. Called them up and hey, would you like to be in my bridal party? If I could ask face to face I did, but not everyone lived in state.

You can do gifts if you want, but they aren't necessary. Don't put yourself out, or spend a lot of money, just because you feel like it's what you're supposed to do. You're going to learn that a lot of what the industry and movies tell us is needed for weddings is simply not. It really takes a lot of the pressure off once you realize that you don't *have* to be the "perfect" bride.

I picked up the phone and called them. No gifts. Gifts put additional pressure on a person to say yes even if they don't feel 100% comfortable doing so.

Etsy has cute cards you can personalize that are cheap! Maybe just do those and give them that?