Asking bridesmaids before fh has his groomsman picked?

View Quoted Comment That's insane. But I guess to each their own. Half these timelines posted give me anxiety. I don't want to start planning and booking things a 12-18 months out. I want to be stress free. Plan and book early. Lol

View Quoted Comment It is not just fight type problems. 2 of my 4 sisters and I all had someone we knew, forever, we would choose. But asking less than 8 months, knew not to ask because she was pregnant and it was in her last month and she could not travel, in the same week as her due date, or she would have a 2 week old. None even made it as guests. One of my 2 closest school friends did stand up with me, but the second got a great job and found out just before I asked her, that she would move to Copenhagen 2 months before my wedding, and could mot spend money or time going bak ad forth. Hubby's BM choice got engaged and at 4 months set the same date we had, for good reason. They had been going to be each other's before T's grandfather got a date for cancer surgery, and they changed. I had been asked at 18 months to be a cousin and closest friend's only MOH ( no BM) and wished I had not said yes when I turned up pregnant, but it was 5 weeks before my due date. She had fits when at 2 months pregnant, I tried to have her ask someone else. Well, hubby and pur 2 little ones travelled all of 3 hours, 2 days early. And after the wedding, at 4 am I had the baby in the Inn in Canada. And had to stay 2 weeks. The closer to the wedding you are, the more likely you are to know who got engaged, pregnant, got a job and is moving, if their spouse died, or they joined the army. It is not just bad things. But waiting til 7-8 months saves a lot of hassles.

View Quoted Comment Well it's either these two or nobody so if they can make it they're in the wedding. If not then I'll just have someone sign as a witness. 🤷

As tempting as it is, wait until 2022 at least! They can still help you if they want to, but friendships can change overnight and you don’t want to have an awkward conversation six months from now!

I got engaged in 2018 and I am getting married next year. I asked my girls within the same year I got engaged. I unfortunately did lose one friend last year but besides that everyone else is pulling through strong! Ultimately you do you! Life is always going to be unpredictable and it's important to go with your gut!

Pobrecita no sabe no lo que hace. Have more friends maybe? That way you’ll be able to have more maid of honors? Also, Matron of honor means a Maid of honor is already married. Maybe your mom since you don’t have enough friends. 😂😂😂

View Quoted Comment Wow. Your future spouse is so lucky to have an emotionally unhinged future spouse. Enjoy your life psycho lady. 😂