Asking bridal Party budget

I think this definitely feels presumptuous to me. There is no rule that your wedding party needs to throw you a bachelorette party or a bridal shower, so asking them what their budget is for these items doesn’t feel appropriate. If somebody wishes to throw you a bachelorette or a shower, they will volunteer to do so. They should never be recruited or backed into a corner to make them feel obligated.

View Quoted Comment Honestly that is how I was feeling about it too!!!

View Quoted Comment I would follow your gut, and definitely leave that portion out of the questionnaire. I love the idea of a questionnaire though! It’s such a smart idea to get all their information in one place!

View Quoted Comment Definitely!! We have 6 bridal party members on each side so it was the easiest way I could think of to get all the info in one place!

Yeah I would also leave the budget out of the questionnaire. When the MOH or other bridesmaid want to inquire about either a shower or bachelorette then they will begin discussing who can/wants to host and how much they are budgeting for.


Sometimes even if they have the budget, they may not be able to attend for one reason or another and they shouldn’t be on the hook for a party or trip they can’t attend.

The questionnaire is a good idea! But I would leave anything with finances or budget out

I would not ask about pre wedding party budget coming from you. Because showers and bachelorettes are not hosted by the bride. If the questionnaire is coming from the maid of honor, and it’s made clear to them that she is hosting, then you can include it. Or better yet have her make a separate form specifically asking that comes from her. Your form contains information about everything else.

Budget questions are handled privately between whomever is hosting the event and each member of the wedding party. Definitely your gut was right on that one!!

I think is a very considerate thing to do to try and be budget friendly. I happen to know all of my grieves income and responsibilities (it’s not many of us in my bridal party) so that helped me consider certain things to be cautious of and create a spaced out enough time line for their finances. It’s not a bad idea to ask and maybe include why you’re asking so no one feels like it’s invasive-but if you’re worried about it just space dates of things out so at the least they have time and notice🙂 good luck!❤️