Ask To Not Wear Perfume or Cologne

I agree with Lynzey. Could you put it on your wedding website instead?

Good answer Lynzey!

I hadn't thought of that, good idea.

Just curious, how does your mom do in general public settings and what are the things that give discomfort? My fiancee has asthma, so I can relate.

I was going to add in a list of "rules" with my invites because theres a few things our venue wants our guess to know like you must have a parking pass etc. but i was going to add please refrain from using cologne or perfumes due to several guest attending having severe asthma and breathing problems ( we might send this out closer to the wedding not in invites )

Well I have a different opinion from some, because I work in a place that will not let you in certain rooms if you have on cologne or perfume, I totally get this! I am not allowed to wear anything with fragrance at work

I would just include it near the attire section and be done with it. Hope people respect your wishes. It isn't that strange and I believe I have seen it on invitations before (just not a wedding)

I would do it. I too have horrible allergies. We sit as far away from others as we can at church etc. Our friends follow the allergy rules and that helps out a lot.

Some people just put a ton on and have no idea what they smell like.

We do not go out to eat or to bars because of those issues. I have had my worst asthma attack because of the hospital bathroom timed sprayer. I was in there with my son for stitches. Yes I was blue.

I would put it on wedding website and on a little card insert

That's kind of ridiculous in my opinion. How does your mom manage in any public place? If you have to, then maybe put on the web site and spread by word of mouth.

My mom has become a bit of a hermit because of her asthma. I generally do all the shopping or she orders online. She rarely goes out unless necessary. My FH is also sensitive to a lot of perfumes as well.

Wow I didn't know perfumes could cause asthma attacks like that! Most of your guests probably won't either so if you send it in the invite people might think its bizarre, but I totally see why you need to do it.

On a side note I find this ironic b/c my FMIL is severely allergic to MSG and preservatives and has to go out of her way to see if its safe to eat at restaurants. But yet wears a TON of perfume in public.

Yeah, it's pretty bad. She uses several different medication to keep it controlled, but there have been times where even a rescue inhaler can't help. It doesn't have to be excessive use for her attacks to be set off. It also doesn't help that she has COPD, so she has to use supplemental oxygen as well.

The MSG, fish and nut allergies are a huge thing with us/our guests. We have made sure there is no fish or nuts on the menu. Also I have made sure none of the foods contain MSG.

My mom is on O2 and the venue is no smoking too so that helps.

Sigh. Fine, I guess your mom really does need a perfume-free zone to be able to enjoy your day. I suppose I'd just make it clear why, like maybe say a little more than "for health reasons"? Maybe something along the lines of, "Some of our family and friends have severe asthma attacks/ allergic reactions to perfumes and colognes. Please help us make this an enjoyable event for everyone by refraining from wearing colognes, perfumes, or heavily scented lotions on this joyous occasion. (Deodorant and scented shower gels won't bother them.)" And perhaps have some alcohol wipes and unscented deodorant on hand in the bathrooms? Good luck to you and let us know how it turns out!

That's interesting...at first I would have said, that's kind of silly to expect your guests not to wear perfume. However, if your mom doesn't even usually go out in public do to this, then yeah I would include it in an insert and word it as some of the other ladies have suggested.

A lady that works for me wears SO MUCH of this icky smelling perfume I try to avoid being in a confined space with her (aka my office). It's like hey, can you go do some random errand for me so I can stop having to suffocate please lol.

I agree that this is something I would spread word of mouth and on your wedding website. BUT I can totally see why this is important to you so I agree that it needs to be addressed.

Aw, your poor mom. COPD is a serious condition. :-( I like Lynszey's insert idea, that is what I would have done. I made an insert with directions, parking info and GPS issues on it to address all the possible obstacles they might have getting to the site. I would have put it on there, but since it is such a serious condition I would also remind people every chance I got just to make sure. Especially because you might have people bring guests you dont know well. Spread the word and do you think air purifiers would help? I know there are ones that can filter ciggarette smoke, so perhaps they would help just in case? You could get a couple for the reception and have them placed in the corners where no one will notice. :-/

Is she on daliresp? Our patients swear on its effectiveness limiting exacerbation.

As MOB, she will be receiving lots of hugs and handshakes, so I can see where it would be a problem.

The tip sheet I give my couples suggest not wearing fragrances if it is an outdoor wedding because of bees.

I have allergies to anything strong Smelling- so I can see where you are coming from. I think it is completely appropriate to put this on your invites. If I were exposed to any perfume( doesn't even have to be strong) I am done for the next week. If it will put someone in the hospital, I'd rather be safe than sorry. No offense to anyone, but people without airborne allergies or asthma do not/ will not understand, and it will be a good idea to remind them by writing in the invite not to wear perfume

Did you follow through with this on the invites? If so, did your guest get upset or ignore the request? I have about 30 people on my guest list, men and women, who wear perfume and cologne, most of them wear way to much. I am the person that's sensitive to it. I don't really want to spend all this money making things perfect for some insensitive guest to come in and knock me out. I already have issues with blacking out in heat, and our venue is a barn with minimal airflow so the perfumes will be heated and combined. At worse I will blackout, have asthma attack, or a headache so bad I wont be able to enjoy the day. I want to ask my guest not to wear it but I am not sure how to go about it. I personally could ask every person not to wear it or to leave but my fiancé is a little nicer about it than me. He cant stand it either but he just deals with it. I cant do that because it affects my health. I have full on allergic reactions from it. I cant even walk near the candle and air fresheners in a store. Sorry for the life story though.