Right now, I have a lot of things nailed down re planning, which is great. The biggest issue are the relationships at hand. My parents are paying for everything, which is great. What is not great is I don't get on with my in-laws. My family is aware of this, know it and because of this, don't like my in-laws and the feeling is mutual.
Because neither family gets along, I have decided that there will no speeches at the wedding. I don't want to give anyone, especially my fiance's family a chance to make cruel remarks.
His family will sit on one side of the church, mine on the other. There will be no mixed seating at the reception, either, which is best.
I know that no one from my side intends to "dance" with his side and that includes me as well.
I have also decided that it is best that there are no joint photos with the families and I do not want to take pics with the groom's family. Is that something that has to be done? My photographer is a family friend, who has not only shot weddings, but has done fashion shoots, etc and is aware of the bad blood.
My fiance is fine with this. He actually wanted to elope, but I told him that would make things worse as he is the only male grandchild on his side and he is the youngest in his family.