Arranging tables is my worst nightmare

If your wedding date on your profile is accurate, this isn’t even something I’d be stressing over yet. Make your table arrangements when all of your RSVPs are in. Otherwise, you’ll have to redo everything anyway once you get declines. What I did was write each person/couple on an index card and then grouped cards together based on who was friends or liked each other. I was doing 8-10 per table, so some groups sorted themselves quickly. Otherwise, I then combined folks who I thought may get along/similar age group. For me, visually being able to see things helped. Also, presumably all these people are adults and they should be able to be in the same room for a few hours without causing trouble. Even if you’re at the same table, you don’t necessarily need to talk to that individual.

View Quoted Comment I know I'm worrying too much too soon 😂 I had a random midnight thought of how I would have people seated and panicked how it would work out

Even if you don’t need the information for awhile, there is still another couple who can benefit from the advice.


Instead of starting out with “10 tables that fit 10 people”, figure out from your guest list who is best suited to sit with each other for dinner. The numbers don’t have to be even. You may have a family group of 14 that you need to fit at tables of 8 and a couple who will have something in common with them to fill tables. Also there is an idea that guests are seated for dinner only, but not everyone chooses to get up and move around or dance or whatever. Some social circles prefer to sit and chat so they will often feel more comfortable staying where they are and not getting up. A good way to figure out the seating arrangements is to have mini post it notes with each guest listed and you can move them around on a poster board template before you finalize.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much that's really helpful! 😊

Not entirely sure this is helpful but I actually had a open seating reception. Only takes so much stress off you. My guest absolutely loved it!