Arms in Wedding Dress

Ugh I'm in the same boat! I don't have any advice but you are not alone!! I've lost 100lbs+ so my upper arms are saggy so I'm soooo insecure about my arms. I'm putting off wedding dress shopping as long as I can.

@FutureMrsE - I definitely did the same thing. I was very anxious about dress shopping! I went with one supportive, great friend who made the experience much better for me.

I totally worried about my arms in my dress! I had definitely wanted some sort of sleeve, but I wound up going with a strapless dress. Whoops!

BUT, when I look at my wedding photos, I don't see my arms at all- I just see how happy I am! Do I wish my arms were smaller, sure, but I was DAMN happy! Rock it!

I found that wearing my veil made me WAY more confident because it gave me some arm coverage! Also, just be conscious about not squashing them against your body if you're really worried!

I was concerned, I gained forty pounds since meeting DH, so I feel you. Since it was a winter wedding I had a vintage fur coat for outside pictures that helped. Of course I couldn't wear the fur all night, so I just let it be in the other pictures. In the one we have of just me I'm unhappy with the armpit fat and how big my arms are, but I know I'm just looking into it too much. No one is scrutinizing it the way I am.

Remember we are our own worst critics.

I am having the same issue. I bought my dream dress and when I went in to try it on yesterday, I was very insecure about my arms. I wish I had some great advice for you. You are definitely not alone.

@MrsKristenS - you look absolutely gorgeous! I love your dress and the look of bliss on your face. I did think about a veil for more coverage but I've since opted for a flower crown. I will try to not squish my arms in close (which is something I notice I do when I am feeling insecure).

@CatLady11317 - I would never notice that in the picture of just you. You look perfect. I have also gained 40 pounds since meeting my future husband and much of it in the last year or so (he claims I look exactly the same - ha!). I think I do just need to realize that I'm making things into a bigger deal than they need to be. I know I'm hard on myself (my fiance tells me all the time!).

@Charlie J - It feels better just knowing there are others are there that feel the way I do. I want some confidence vibes to rub off on me!

Yeah I definitely had similar insecurities, plus I have a pretty decent smattering of tattoos on my upper arms so I wanted to cover them for the ceremony. I bought a lace jacket (attached) to go with my dress and assumed I would wear it the whole time, but I just went for my first fitting and I realized I actually love myself in the dress without the jacket! But in general I feel better with sleeves so I'm sure I'll be happy to have it.

ETA: I agree with the squish your arms in thing, I have a few photos of my fiancé and I were I squeezed my arm in too tight and that's only thing I don't like about the photos... I would recommend practicing in the mirror if you're worried about doing it reflexively!

I understand completely. I hate my arms so much and I fell in love with a strapless dress. My seamstress gave me a couple options but they were so pricey I didn't like them. I order the dress in a couple months, so when I go back I'm going to ask about what else we can do.

@TexasBride - The dress shop gave me a few options but they didn't feel like me at all. They had a weird lace cape they were trying to convince me to buy. Another friend of mine told me to practice some poses in the mirror so I know what I look like. I'll have to wait until the fiance is gone...

@Melissa - Hopefully, she can suggest some things you like. The dress shop had nothing for me. I'm really into the idea of something knit but have not found anything I've been over the moon about.

I hate how my arms look in pictures. I try to be conscious of how I'm holding them. (I've practiced in the mirror how they look best.....lol)