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Just Said Yes June 2023

Arizona vs Alabama

Bailey, on June 10, 2020 at 12:13 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15
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We’re a few years from our wedding (My man is military and we want to wait till he gets out so we can focus on our individual careers). He’s from Arizona and I’m from Alabama (Where we currently live) so we are stumped with where to go for our wedding. We both know we Don’t want to do it in each others home state bc lord knows one side of the family will feel left out bc “we can go all the way there” his family would be a lot more understanding than mine though. We are trying to find a happy medium but I really would hate for his family to have to drive so far (I’m not especially close with my family) help! We’d really like an outdoor wedding where there’s some water and we were thinking north Texas or Oklahoma it’s still going to be 11hrs for either family

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Latest activity by Judith, on June 10, 2020 at 8:22 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Which state is the midpoint between your two states?

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    Just Said Yes June 2023
    Bailey ·
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    The Texas/Oklahoma state line is our mid point when we go to visit his family. So really either
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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    Our family is spread out between Indiana, NC, and CO - we opted to have our wedding in FL Keys. No matter where or what we did, more than 3/4 would have to travel to so we opted to have it somewhere that everyone would hopefully enjoy and take either a vacation to or at the very least an extended weekend.

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    Just Said Yes June 2023
    Bailey ·
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    That’s a great idea! Thanks!
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    Legend June 2019
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    Is there also any other state you'd want to just go to as a vacation? it sounds like either way you are having a destination wedding so maybe also consider just somewhere nice you'd wanna go anyway

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    Just Said Yes June 2023
    Bailey ·
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    That’s a good idea! Thanks!!
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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
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    My husband is in the military also. We got married where most of my family and friends are since his side had to travel regardless. A lot of them chose not to come or couldn’t get leave. But that’s not something we could have predicted when booking our venue.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    I would have the wedding where you live. It is very hard to plan a wedding when you don’t live locally!
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    Just Said Yes June 2023
    Bailey ·
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    I would but his family lives so far away and we get along better with them than mine in all truthfulness.
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    Bailey ·
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    Thank you so much for the advice !
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  • Philippa
    Dedicated November 2021
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    This problem is exactly why we ended up going for a DW in Cancun! His family is in Illinois, mine is in Arizona, if they have to fly anyway might as well go somewhere exotic Smiley tongue
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    Wait and see where you are in his last posting. You two may get shifted once or twice, and end up a long time at one, make friends, get job offers there, and end up in Seattle or Colorado or near Chesapeake Bay. and want a location where current friends, his last military friends who may still be in service, and both families can travel to. And afford when they get there . We were each ( before knowing each other) in the service, and even a year in advance where you will go, it may be far away from where they put you. or post military job offers.
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
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    Have you considered a DW? Maybe out of the states? If everyone has to travel anyways, maybe just pick an amazingly beautiful location, one with meaning to you both, one you've always wanted to visit, etc.

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    His orders are to stay here till his time is up, he didn’t re-enlist so they won’t move him anymore unless it goes to hades in a hand basket somewhere. Plus he’s in pilot school right now they’re not going to move him unless necessary. Only reason we are starting to think about it now
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    We were each told that too. And moved 3 more times for me, from that second posting where they said I would stay til finished . And hubby was sent where expected overseas, knowing where he would come back to after 28 months. But was in 2 downed aircraft, came back at a different time and totally different place. If I were you, I would save banging my head, and work on things you would do at any venue. Too far away for specifics including place. To be in the military is to be moved about like a chess piece by some great unseen hand.
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