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Jai Butcher
Rockstar May 2020

Argument

Jai Butcher, on June 19, 2020 at 2:41 PM

Posted in Married Life 24

So today my husband and I got into a heated argument. Which really doesnt happen too often. It was over his friend. We recently married 5/16/20. His friend 'B' was invited to the wedding, and even said with COVID19 he would still attend. My husband sent multiple texts once the date got closer and B...
So today my husband and I got into a heated argument. Which really doesnt happen too often. It was over his friend. We recently married 5/16/20. His friend 'B' was invited to the wedding, and even said with COVID19 he would still attend. My husband sent multiple texts once the date got closer and B didn't respond and didn't show. About 3 weeks after the wedding B texts my husband and said sorry for being MIA, something came up. My husband and I were upset he didnt respond to texts and just texted him out of the blue. He wanted to stop by and drop us off a wedding card. We agreed that he could mail it instead, since that would be more convenient to us.



Well fast forward to today.. he texts my husband saying "hey I'm stopping by today after work ". Didnt ask us if that's ok, or if we'd be home; just invited himself over. I told my husband and I didn't like that, and I would prefer B mail the card ,we are busy with things today and agreed not to see B for awhile until things die down. Well my husband agrees he can come over, which I dont like. Some hurtful things were said and he ended up apologizing, but I dont know how to make my husband understand that we both must be on the same page about things. If one of us is uncomfortable with someone coming over, the other should respect that and reschedule for another time. If theres no mutual respect, this and other issues will arise.

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  • Nahnie2552
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I agree with you. I think the biggest thing to grasps in marriage is it's a partnership and you must both agree. May times, we won't agree or see eye to eye but we must respect the other person's decision. This may be just a growing pain to your marriage.

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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai Butcher ·
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    We did end up resolving it and he told his friend he can come over another time.the friend wasnt happy, but oh well. Our relationship comes first and now that we r married our dynamics in friendship r different than being engaged and even dating. Its hard for others to grasp sometimes. And yea we must compromise to make things work
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  • Jr
    Dedicated November 2020
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    Ok so the guy diddnt attend your wedding? I have been invited to many that I didnt attend. He has a life, he isnt the groom?


    I can understand being annoyed but let him has his friend over, my FH knews to call before hand because chances are I dont have a bra or pants on lol thats what the backyard, garage, man cave is for! If you dont have that and dont wang to socialize excuse yourself, read a book, take a bath.
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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai Butcher ·
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    The situation is resolved. Thanks
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