Arguing with Mom

Who is paying? If she isn't paying, I would just keep wedding talk to a minimal. It may be hard to do, especially if she keeps bringing it up, but kindly say "i'll think about that idea" and change the topic.

We're having a second reception, that's what she's paying for. She's not paying for anything for the actual wedding, except my dress.

Girl join the club ,my mom is motherzilla. .She calls all day with something like today her friends are older and they don't know how to use the computer she says, she thought I was gonna take her rsvp of her friends everyday via phone call. .GIRL BYE!!

Agree with pp. If she isn't paying, she has no say in what you do.

Keep wedding talk to a minimum. If she asks about things, tell her you have it handled, or are still looking into things.

I agree with BeachDreams. It might be time to cut down on the wedding talk with her for now. I know you want to be able to share this special time in your life with her, but it's not worth the arguments.

Who is paying factors into it but yes, it's normal. My parents helped financially and my mom helped me with a lot of decor. We didn't agree on visions sometimes though and butted heads. It all turned out fine.

It sounds like your mom doesn't like anything though which is irritating

My mama not (fix income) for nothing I had too pay for her stuff I am 36 yrs old I still fear her. Lol .. Her dress color is champagne not wedding colors ,I am using gold accent she has silver on her dress , she wants gloves and headpiece.. Y'all be lucky I am dealing with a PURE DIVA NUTT OVER HERE

Soon2BSmith girl, you're making me feel better about (what I thought was) my crazy mama!

For the second reception, she does get some say as she is paying. I would just work on picking your battles, think about what is most important to have at the second reception and for other stuff try to talk it out. Also, it might be helpful to ask her to take care of specific tasks in the planning process as that will likely keep her focused and reduce the change of arguing about other things.

I know I am dealing with crazy , sometimes I block her my phone for a day to breath. Sunday I try not do or talk nothing wedding and she be in that mode , SHE SENT OUT ALMOST 70 INVITES Alone ..

Help me @beachdreams. I need advice to.

@Soon2BSmith, lol, could you consider scheduling wedding talk times? Maybe once a week, having a mother daughter lunch to sit and chat about the wedding, but limiting any wedding talk outside of that time?

Well I love my mom but she is on my nerves. Both of us are contributing... but holy he'll, if I don't stay on her, we would miss all our apts

You can do 1 of 2 things.

1. Quit talking wedding with her.

2. Sit her down and say, "Mom, I really want to enjoy planning my wedding with you but you criticize all of our plans and ideas. If it is going to be like this then I will finish planning on my own. I need you to respect our decisions and be happy for us. It is your choice whether or not you want to be involved, but if you do, the criticism needs to stop.

My mom and I fight about everything. I was raised by her and her mom. Her mom and I got along like best friends. My mom and I fight like sisters. I feel like after my grandmother passed I became the mom in our relationship and it sucks - I resented her for it.

Now I just treat her like a child. When she was complaining about wedding stuff i just told her 'this is not your wedding and not your money and unless you want to not know anything about it - keep your opinions to yourself