Always find it fun to learn more about other couples!
My fiancé and I are the complete opposites! I loveee the city and being out and about, while he lives in the country and enjoys staying home watching sports. Even if we have different interests, we still go out and do things each of us enjoy. It’s brought us together and we’ve actually realized that my fiancé enjoys broadway shows (which he never thought he would) & he got me zip lining (I’m a hugeeee chicken)! Lol it’s been fun stepping out of our comfort zones and doing activities we typically wouldn’t do because it brings the joy to the other (which in return makes us happy). What we do have in common are our work ethic, love for our family/friends, and respect for one another. Are you similar or opposites?
We are similar when it comes to important things such as VALUES, LIFE GOALS, and VIEWS ON HOW TO RAISE A CHILD AND MANAGE A MARRIAGE. we are complete opposites with our hobbies and interests. I love the city, he's a country man. I love eating at restaurants, he loves cooking a home.
We are very similar. Both raised Catholic with the belief in our sacraments, although he is divorced and getting his marriage annulled. But early on we found out we both love shopping and shopping with "deals" not just coupons. We both love city life, but like living in the suburbs. Our political views are about 99% the same, there are very few things that put us on the opposite spectrum.
On paper, you would think we were opposites. I love pop music, he loves death metal. I wear cute nerdy t-shirts like Disney and Harry Potter, he loves purely black. He always loved cats, I can't live without a dog. He hates sweets, I love chocolate and cakes.
But we're actually very alike. Shockingly so. He can be a nerd just like me, and he fell in love with dogs as soon as he met our late fur child. I actually love death metal and have gone to concerts with him for his favorite bands. Plus we're both computer geeks! So we're both alike and different? We just bring uniqueness to the table.
I think that we are similar in the important ways and opposite in the fun ways.
We are both Catholic and both want to have a big family. We also share a lot of moral views that I consider important for having a family. We have the same #1 goal of raising a faithful family and becoming better Catholics and better people.
In personality, we are very different! He is an introvert, while I get down if I don't socialize frequently. He likes routine, while I like adventures. He has a few close friends that he prioritizes, while I love making new friends and getting lots of people together. He likes staying in and reading or watching a movie, while I love going out dancing.
The nice thing is that we like doing the thing the other person enjoys when we are together. He would never go dancing with his friends, but he likes doing it with me. I love watching a movie with him. It has been good for us to learn how to give to each other and think about what is best for the other person.
We're a combination. Personality-wise we're opposites. I'm very type A and he's more laid back, which is good because he mellows me out and I keep us on top of things. But we share a lot of interests and our values and goals.
I would say we are combination of both. We have the same sense of humor, we are both somewhat introverted (we don't mind going out sometimes but we would rather stay home and watch a movie with our fur baby) and we have the same beliefs in most things.
Our differences would definitely be our love languages. It used to hurt my feelings when we first started dating because we were so different in that aspect until I learned more about how he loves and how I love. I've learned it's okay to be different as long as you have understanding. He is a Capricorn so he is more type A (more organized, career driven, more left brained) and I'm a Cancer (more family driven, not as organized, more right brained).
It seems to be working out because we have been together almost 7 years, lived together almost 4 years and engaged for almost a year. Lol.
I'd say we're about 50/50. He's afraid of heights and i love it but i got him to join me and my cousin on the high roller (ferris wheel) in Las Vegas and he said it wasn't too bad. I'm an adventure freak and he loves the ground and his video games.
Awhile back he had taught me how to play call of duty which gave me massive anxiety but im getting better at it. We both love food but he's also a snacker and me not so much. I'm thorough and ask questions where he does not (for the most part). He's super nonchalant about everything whereas I tend to stress myself out. We're both sarcastic and have a good sense of humor always making each other laugh over the stupidest thing. We can still both be pretty darn stubborn too. We're both virgos, 7 year age gap but our birthdays are this week, 2 days apart.
We are similar in values and beliefs and have a pretty good communication line on how to approach little and big decisions, as in, he is always asking me questions lol. Our interests are pretty different though; he likes camping, video gaming, having friends over a lot, whereas I want to stay inside and watch TV or read a book and hang out with people outside of my own space, I'm quite introverted compared to him and can't exert a lot of energy when it comes to socializing. Our tempers are pretty different too, he's always calm and even when he's stressed he never yells or blows up, whereas I'm very loud and get annoyed easily lol.
We both like to explore new things but, would rather have a quiet game night than go to a bar. We both prefer living in the city and love going to the theatre and art galleries. We both love Disney and Marvel and watching film theory videos. We also love going to bookstores and traveling. We both have similar values and morals.
However, I am more of the creative and he's more logical. I need to plan things out and he's go with the flow. He can start a conversation with just about anyone while I need a bit of time to warm up. He needs silence to work and I need noise (which means if we are both doing work in the living room I put headphones in).
We’re actually really similar!! we’ve joked about being the same person, and we’ve said we’re soulmates because there’s no way that us being so similar and perfect for each other is a coincidence. that being said- we balance each other out in all the right places. and even though we’re so similar, i could never get bored of him!! we keep things interesting😉
We are opposites in some things but, overall, remarkably similar. We share a lot of values and goals, and some personality traits. We're both introverts and LOVE our hang out at home time, though he is also a social butterfly when he is out and about whereas I'm more of your standard quiet, reserved introvert and tend to be shy in social situations with new people or large groups. He is far more energetic in general than I am. He likes to be up and about being productive around the house, whereas I'm perfectly happy reading on the couch for hours. We both love animals (we have 4 cats and just recently adopted a large dog as well), the outdoors, good food/beer/wine/bourbon/scotch/whiskey and traveling to new places.
We both believe in volunteering and doing your piece to make the world around better. He's on a probation officer and on multiple non-profit boards for mental health awareness, and studying for his PhD in Public Administration/Policy. I'm a project manager for a rather non-traditional healthcare provider that is focused on revolutionizing primary care into something more holistic and prevention focused than the current norm for primary care, as well as in the process of trying to join a non-profit board focused on raising awareness of human trafficking.
He loves horror movies, which I refuse to watch. He has a very irreverent/non-PC sense of humor (his whole family does), which I appreciate and am slightly horrified by at times as well.
I think we mostly have a good balance. We're not joined at the hip similar. Our differences keep things interesting while our similarities keep us bonded and headed in the same direction. We encourage and support each other's efforts at growth and self-improvement.
As mentioned in the other thread, we are obsessed with the same sports teams (we finally won today, oh thank goodness), we are both actors, we both love the city, and so on.
We are different in religion - he's a good Italian Catholic boy, I'm essentially pagan. He has an unfortunate problem with living in NJ, but I'm born and raised Jersey Girl (...we live in NJ, 'cuz I'm a sneaky snek, and bought a condo, here. - To be fair, I had to, as I worked in NJ - It just happens to be massively more affordable than where we'd *want* to live in NYC).
Then there are things where we have nuances in our similarities - we both love to read, but different types of books. While we love the same sports teams, he also likes to play a little, plus he even writes about Italian soccer. (I promised to try to understand soccer in my wedding vows. Still no luck. I don't see how it's supposed to be better than baseball.) Our nerd-doms overlap, but aren't quite the same - I'm more Harry Potter (...well, I was), he's more Star Trek (we've actually been binging Star Trek since the start of social distancing).
We are That Couple - we've been finishing each others' sentences (and sandwiches!) since we *met*. When we come across things we disagree on, we can get intense about it, but we have learned to communicate well enough to find ways forward.
We also share one true, fundamental, unshakeable belief, and, of course, it's sports related: The DH is an abomination and is ruining baseball.
We are a mix. We are both very loving and giving people who only want to see the other happy. We have similar senses of humor in that we are both big old goofballs and always go for the laugh. We both love being silly and will do silly things to make each other and ourselves laugh. We both believe in being kind to people and we both have a strong sense of family. We differ, however, on child rearing. This is that big a problem since we are NOT having children together. LOL. We both have children and all of our children are grown so it's just us two.
Now, we differ on a lot of things, mostly political and socio-politically. We've had some seriously spirited....ummm....debates that usually end up with me telling him to stop talking to me. But 5 minutes later, we're laughing about something else on a completely different topic. He loves the city but I find that the older I get, the more I live the country. We like different movies -- I'm all about mysteries, thrillers, action and horror movies, while he likes mostly comedies -- the dumber the better *rolling my eyes*. LOL.
Oddly, I just told him recently that I've notice how we've changed each other when it comes to finances. I was much more irresponsible before I met him and he was much more anal about money when we met. We've been together 6 years and I am now usually the one asking "do we really need to be spending money on that?" and he is often the one that says "hell, we work for a living and we can't take it with us.' LOL He takes care of making sure the bills get paid and he's still anal about THAT, but he's far more willing to spend the discretionary income than he was before.
Were so OPPOSITE it sometimes scares 😅 us both. What we do have in common is were seniors going to grow older together, church goers, adventurous. I'm a solider and he's a musician 🎶. Both of kids are nurses and we love each other.