Are you resented because a family member cannot make it to the wedding?

Lovely family! Weddings bring out the best in everyone. Id send it by email and if they cant make it then good riddance!

I'd ignore their request and mail it. Let them be the booger heads.

Good for you for going and poop on them in general

Ashley - I believe you just had a grammar fail yourself.... TROLOL

I have a lot of family that aren't attending. Some I heard reasons why, others simply said no. And I had to track down others who never bothered to send it in. I took it hard. FH has 2 cousins who swore they'd come, and they both declined. Neither gave reasons either. He's taking it worse than me and my family.

^ I was gonna say the same thing lol

*What Superman Bride said

My best friend is Australian and won't be able to make it (Obviously for financial reasons) but I'm bitter nonetheless.

It was a wedding, people get busy and their mind is elsewhere. seems like at weddings there is always people that felt that they should have been paid more attention to.

sorry they didn't ask about your parents, but I'm not seeing anything here saying that anyone really resents you.

they probably were just too busy to spend more time with you than they did.

as for sending the invite email, that would have been for a lot of reasons, I don't think it's much to take personally.

I am HOPING people can't make it to the wedding! I hate the politics of "having" to invite someone. I know I really don't HAVE to invite anyone, but I kinda do, ya know? Big, fat, Italian family for you. Anyway, I have lot's of family I'm not particularly close with, or even LIKE for that matter, and wish I could omit them from my guest list. But in order to keep the peace, they must be invited. I'm just hoping in the end, they decline.

I know I would be upset. I have cousins that live 3 hours away and they better come that is all I know I would be so pissed omg!!

Personally, I wouldn't mind if my family from out of state don't come to the wedding. Yes, I went to their weddings but situations change and everyone has priorities. You may not be aware of what else they have going on and as long as they RSVP, I don't think anyone really needs to tell you why they are not coming, just that they are not coming.

That being said, I would be much more upset/resentful/annoyed if my family that lives in MA didn't come to my wedding. It's not far for them and I go to every event I am invited to and expect the same in return.

FH has family out of state as well and while we are inviting them, I think my FFIL would be more upset if they don't come than FH or I. FH's grandmother mentioned if she doesn't know if she will be able to attend the wedding. I told FH that if its due to finances, we should offer to buy her ticket for her. FH said that his father will probably take care of it so we shouldn't worry about it.

I've learned that my wedding is a major event to me and my fiancé, but it's just an event to everyone else. Let it go and focus on the people who do celebrate with you.

I promise, you won't notice on the day of. My grandfather flat-out refused to come to mine, but I didn't think of him once on the day, nor of my best friend who also couldn't make it. It will be all about the people who *are* there, I promise.

One thing I learned from having some issues with FH's extended family on his moms side is that if they do not come to something it is absolutely their loss. FH's aunt does not like me at all and FH used to be really close to her. I am always the bigger person and invite her to our son's birthday party and she has yet to show to any. So absolutely their loss if they don't show! Just have a great wedding and enjoy the day!

My whole family went to my cousins wedding last year but because my cousin n sister r fighting, my cousin n her husband don't wNt to come to my wedding. Like seriously... Grow up

I actually HOPING that some of my family doesn't come. I have an aunt/uncle I haven't seen in ten years, but out of obligation to my mom invited them. FH has a cousin he never talks to, but because he's close to the one cousin we had to invite the other. I hope THEY don't feel obligated to come since they are family. We're having a small wedding and we have a ton of other people we'd prefer there to celebrate. The cousin of FH is getting married next year and we don't plan on attending.

I'm sending my invitations this week to everyone. I already know most of my family won't be attending but I mind as well just send them and see what happens.

I hear you. i feel the same because a lot of my family members aren't coming. my cousin would rather go on spring break with her friends (again) than come to my wedding and my best friend since childhood and bridesmaid cant come because her job wont give her ONE day off!

i try to keep my head up about it though and remember all the people who are really excited to come to the wedding. my moms cousin is flying all the way to mexico from china and we're keeping is a secret from my mom to surprise her since no one thought she'd be able to make it. we also have friends coming from switzerland. thats dedication!

I'll be honest, one of my grandmother's is planning on not coming to the wedding " because she doesn't want to travel ". Because my parents are divorced I've always felt like the left out cousin of the bunch, so her not coming kinda confirms it for me.

Both me and my dad said, I bet if Kim (her fav grandchild) got married next year, she'd be here.

But hey, she's one less plate to pay for, so who cares.

I wouldn't even worry about it. You can't expect others to reciprocate. You know their true feelings at this point.

You're braver than I am. I wouldn't go to a wedding in another state on my own because sadly, they probably just were too busy to really spend a whole lot of time with anyone that day.