Stephanie
Super June 2019

Are you pregnant yet?

Stephanie, on August 5, 2019 at 3:24 PM Posted in Married Life 0 29
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It's been a month since we got married! 🎉🎉☺️ I love it and so glad the planning and payments are over😂 Not sure if anyone else has experienced this or feels the same after marriage, but I feel like getting married rejuvenated our relationship, it feels brand new and we've had an amazing relationship prior to marriage but for me it has felt like breathing new fresh air. Honestly couldn't be more grateful for a beautiful relationship and how we handle things.

But now that the party is over, we get the reoccurring comments/questions...

So the kids are coming soon right?
Are you pregnant yet?
When are you gonna have a kid?
Waiting for my niece/nephew from you I'll be dead...

Or God forbid I say my stomach isn't well or I'm nauseous...it's called indigestion or food positioning lol but nope it's the "omg you're pregnant?!"

My husband is 32 and I'm turning 28 in October. We both started new jobs three months ago, we are staying with my sister and her husband until January/February to get into our apartment or house based on financial benefit so we're paying very decent rent at my sister's which will help us save and help them temporarily since my sister cared for my grandma and the government paid her but she has passed and left her without a job until recently.

Right now we're in the rebuilding process and kind of setting that foundation for stability. We love children and definitely want our own family but now is not the time. We are taking precautions and if it happens then it happens but we're working hard to make sure when the time comes, we're not scrambling to make space for a baby.

We do laugh at the questions and comments but sometimes I'm like "seriously here we go again". But we also let everyone know it's in due time and it'll happen when it's meant to happen. We want to enjoy our marriage, have more stability and as prepared as possible for another life. Our little secret right now is if all is well, we will begin trying towards the end of next year around September - October maybe a little later depending on our fertility as well. And sometimes people don't realize it, but what if it's a couple that already knows there are some fertility concerns. It's such a delicate topic and people don't mean harm but we should be cautious.

Anyone else bombarded with baby talk after getting married?

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Latest activity by CourtneyBrittain, on August 17, 2019 at 5:31 PM
  • Kelly
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    I've been engaged sense January. I gained ten pounds and my future in laws asked my future sister in law to ask if I was. 🤦
    Sister in law told us and told us she was so embarrassed they asked that.
    My parents were dissapointed my engagement announcement wasn't a pregnancy. I can't even get married before being asked. 😞😩
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  • Stephanie
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    Oh my!! That happened to me too🤦🏻‍♀️ my mother in law said she had a dream with a baby and called to ask if I was expecting🙃
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  • Kelly
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    On the plus side... When the times comes we know everyone will be excited.
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  • Stephanie
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    Yes you're right about that! My sister already called dibs on the baby shower and my 16 year old niece on the gender reveal🤦🏻‍♀️ lol they are also kicking me out of the planning because they want to surprise me
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  • MrsD
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    We aren't getting these questions at all, but I'm 25 so maybe because I'm a little bit younger and really none of our friends have kids yet. We want to try in the next year, but that will FOR SURE be a secret. We've had too many friends tell people they are trying then have difficulties or something come up to stop them from trying, then they have to deal with awkward questions and all that.

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  • Stephanie
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    That's also the thing that our friends don't have children either lol but definitely can see why because of our ages and we've been altogether 5 years. But it's definitely people very close to us always asking lol
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  • Melle
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    I've been married now for 1.5 months or so and I've totally been asked a ton about kids, if we want any or when we want them, etc. We honestly don't want any at all let alone YET aha. But I think that's also a subject we don't want to touch upon until later. We are currently pretty hard no when it comes to kids but I do feel like that could change as time goes on. Luckily what I have is time on my side since I justtttt turned 26. So it feels nice I could enjoy my married life alone with my husband and set up the foundation for a child if we decide later on.
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  • Stephanie
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    And that's totally fine too! Whatever works for you guys and kids aren't for everyone and thats personal preference. You guys know each other well to share that decision but man people can be really into it with the questions lol
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  • MrsD
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    That's funny! Yeah we have been together over 4 years, we bought a house last year together and we have been renovating the entire thing so I'm sure that's why people aren't asking because they know how busy we are with that!

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  • Chandra
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    My family before the wedding had a small pool of when we would be expecting baby.
    Luckily for us, we didnt have to tolerate the questions too long as we've been married just over 12 weeks and 2 days and I'm 10 weeks and 5 days pregnant 🤣
    It was tough fielding those "when is my grandbaby coming??" Questions from the parents when we waited to announce until after the first appointment. H and I wanted to expand the family asap as we arent getting any younger and want 3 or 4 kids.
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  • Stephanie
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    That's fun! A lot of work but definitely would love to have a project like that soon
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  • Gen
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    Lol, one of my friends got married last October and whenever someone asks “how’s married life” her response is “the same, except now I can’t get sick without being asked if I’m pregnant” 😂 She’s an elementary school teacher so naturally she’s exposed to a lot of germs and gets sick a lot... she’s like “can I ever just have a cold in peace without babies being brought up?” hahaha.

    We actually haven’t gotten too many questions like this but we’re both pretty young (I’m 22 and husband just turned 25 last week) so i don’t think people are expecting it from us right away anyway. Although basically every other time I talk to my father in law he jokingly asks “how’s my grandchild?” and I’m like “not existing yet, but I’ll keep you updated!” Lol.
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  • Kelly
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    Ha. I'm lucky my friends have kids so everyone will be occupied with the other babies, and we're all expecting siblings to be announced around our wedding so I figure I can deflect to the ones who are actually pregnant for a while 😆
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  • Stephanie
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    Awww Congratulations!!! I meant if we were already stable, long into our new jobs already I think we would've gotten pregnant before the year is over lol
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  • Haley
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    OMG I feel like both of our grandparents are basically saying "we're going to die before you have kids" It's annoying.

    I want to have kids pretty soon after we're married but we had a long engagement and I think both our families are ready for us to have kids. We aren't ready yet! We are 25/26 right now, we will be 27/28 when we get married.

    Sometimes I find it really nosey and other times I'm fine with it. I've told my grandparents, my parents, fh stepmom, and our friends when my birth control is up we will be discussing trying to get pregnant.

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  • Stephanie
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    I feel her pain😂😂 it's so silly! My niece Pats my belly all the time talking to her non-existent "cousin" 😂
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  • Stephanie
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    Oh wow haha!!
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  • Stephanie
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    It can be funny yet annoying at times. My brother really wants us to have a child, a nephew of course, but I say whatever we get first as long as the baby is healthy but I tell him are you carrying for 9 months? Pushing the kid and supporting it? Til then goodbye😂
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  • Chandra
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    Haha we havent shared the news with everybody yet, only select friends and immediate family. But I'm not looking forward to the "wow was it a shot gun wedding??" Sort of questions haha. Lord knows we all thought that when my brother got married, except they had only been dating for 2 months when they got hitched. Haha
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  • Gen
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    Omg congratulations!!! I remember you posting before the wedding about wanting to try for a baby right away... I'm so happy it happened so quickly for you! Smiley love

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