Super October 2021

Are You Nervous?!

Lisa, on September 27, 2021 at 3:05 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 12

So my fiancé and I are 10 days away from our wedding day, we have been together almost 10 years and have been engaged for 4.5 years now.

As the countdown comes to a close, people are continuously asking us if we are nervous. I don't understand what there is to be nervous about? Actually getting/being married, the wedding day itself, something going wrong or something else?

So my question is, are you nervous? If yes, what are you nervous about?

Genuinely curious.


Latest activity by Rosie, on September 28, 2021 at 10:14 PM
  • S
    Expert September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    So I have about a year so right now I'm not nervous at all. I feel like when the time comes I won't be nervous to be married because I am so excited to marry him and spend our lives together, plus I already feel like we are married. We've been together 3.5 years and have lived together for over a year now. I think I will be nervous just about the day and flow of the timeline and standing in front of 150+ people and expressing my love to him. I don't enjoy crowds or the attention on me so I think that's the part I will be nervous about, but not the actual marriage.

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  • Cece
    Super November 2022
    Cece Online ·
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    The only thing I’m worried about is fitting into my dress! I bought it before quarantine, and I’ve put on weight since then 😱
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I wasn't nervous, I know my husband was because he doesn't like being the center of attention or public speaking. He just took a few shots before the ceremony and was perfectly fine! lol

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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    I am 207 days away I am excited more then nervous but I don't like standing up and being the center of attention so I am nervous about that

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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I got asked this question often as well, and my answer was always no. We had been together for years, living together for 6 of them by the wedding day. We knew that we are right for each other, so there were no doubts about that. I viewed the wedding as the celebration of our love, so I wasn't really worried about anything going wrong because the only important thing was getting married by the end of it. I think sometimes people are anxious because this is the largest and most elaborate party they've ever thrown and are worried that it won't match their vision. Women in the US especially are societally taught from a young age to view their wedding as the best day of their lives and put a lot of stock into this day being "perfect."
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  • M
    Devoted September 2021
    Marianne ·
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    I wasn't nervous until a couple of weeks before the wedding - but I'm a worrier at heart, so I'm not surprised that I started to freak out about minute details lol. I wasn't really worried about getting married, though, and was cool as a cucumber the day-of because by that point, there wasn't anything I could really change. A few things that I got worked up about:

    1. Making sure our ceremony was perfect. We didn't get married in a church, so we had complete control over the ceremony. Our officiant wrote the script, and she was fantastic, but I kept worrying that it wasn't "us" enough or something.

    2. Our first dance. H is super self conscious about dancing, so we took a few dance lessons within 2 weeks leading up to the wedding. The first couple lessons were good, but we both started stressing out during the third when it was time to tie it all together.

    3. We DIY-ed bud vases for centerpieces and the main flower I ordered was already past it's peak (and with weak stems, some were flopping over) by the time we started arranging the vases.

    4. I got worked up about a font. A FONT. We made these cute little boxes with macarons that doubled as escort cards and favors and after they were all assembled, I decided I didn't like the font I chose and almost redid them all... the night before the wedding.

    My lesson learned was to not leave anything to the last minute, like revising the ceremony script; taking dance lessons; or printing signage, labels, etc. Some things we needed to wait to do (assemble flower arrangements, pack macaron boxes) since we were working with perishable items, but I could've been a little more organized lol.

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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated October 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    I’m nervous. Not about the marriage, but about getting the remaining planning things done. And what if something goes wrong the day of with the cake or the caterer or if I twist an ankle.

    I am rock solid in my relationship, but I know I’m no planner, and I have a very vivid imagination for all of the things that could go sideways. 😅
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I honestly think most of the questions people ask similar to that are just mindless small talk. They haven't put much thought into the question, so I wouldn't overthink your response. They are asking for something to say and they probably ask every person they've every known to get married.

    I was only nervous about one thing before my wedding: would my parents behave? My wedding was the first time for my bio mom & dad to see each other since their divorce decades before. They were both remarried, and my step-parents are pretty chill, but my parents are/were not chill, and it was nerve-racking anticipating their meeting. In the end, it was fine, but I'm glad I never have to do THAT again.

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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
    Katherine ·
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    I get nervous thinking about it but other then that not really. I'm more excited for it to be here. I think I'm most nervous for all the attention to be on me.
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  • Milada
    Rockstar October 2021
    Milada ·
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    I'm more nervous for the wedding to go smoothly without issues. I'm not nervous about marrying my best friend at all.

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  • Cj
    Dedicated October 2021
    Cj ·
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    I'm a bit shy and introverted so I'm nervous about being in the spot light for at least the ceremony and the first dance.
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  • Rosie
    Rockstar February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    We're about 150 odd days out after postponing. I am nervous, if I'm honest.

    I'm nervous about thinking everything is done since it was planned so far in advance, only to realise a week or two beforehand that it actually isn't. I'm nervous I've forgotten something important or our vendors aren't fully locked in with our new date (even though my fiance checked and said they are!) I'm nervous I'll think of the day we were supposed to have, and it will have been nicer weather/better suppliers/whatever than what we'll end up with, and be unable to let that go. I'm terrified we'll have a freakishly hot day and the sleeves I had put on my dress to accommodate the cool, early spring weather will make me want to pass out. I'm afraid nothing could live up to all the dreaming and hoping I had for this day, especially with the postponement when we'd already been patient for 18 months.

    But the man? Not a doubt in my mind he is the one. He's an absolute angel and makes me feel very loved and precious. He talks me down from these ledges and none of my nerves have anything to do with worrying about the marriage - just the wedding!

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