Are you having Dancing at your wedding?

I think that you guys will have to compromise. Maybe have dancing but not a forced dance. One way to do this would be to have other activities- like a photobooth, drinking, catching up with friends

I have never been to a wedding without dancing. I feel like I wouldn't know what to do as a guest. If you opt to not have dancing, what is your plan for entertaining your guests after they eat?

We had dancing at our wedding and I’ve never attended a wedding without it. I’m not a big dancer and never felt forced to do so at my wedding. I feel like if dancing isn’t an option for your guests, you shouldn’t have spotlight dances yourselves.

I have also never been to a wedding without dancing. I think I would be incredibly bored at the reception without dancing because I love dancing. I don't drink so alcohol wouldn't appeal to me. If he doesn't want to dance he doesn't have to, but that doesn't mean your guest won't want to dance. Without dancing or any other type of entertainment, I would be worried your guests will just leave immediately after dinner ends.

It’d be a bit odd to me to have a couples first dance, bride/father and groom/mother dance and then no dancing at all for guests! Just because you book the DJ doesn’t mean you or he have to dance all night long. You can hit the dance floor and then go say hello/thank you to people, grab a snack, etc.

I had dancing at mine . it was fun. however i must say that i have been to weddings where there wasn't any and it was still fine

Ive been to plenty of weddings without dancing and some with dancing. I agree with the others any maybe have some other activities along with the option for dancing? Just sit down with your FH and discuss it and see what you can do! Good luck!

How long is your reception? We are not huge on dancing but we are going to have it. Still figuring out our music choices and options.


Since we know not everyone is huge on dancing and some guest love to dance (it's how my sister met her husband) we are also having tables with board games on them since we are both huge nerds and the FH has a big collection already.

We had dancing at our wedding, I honestly would be really disappointed if I went to a wedding and realized there would be no dancing. Your FH doesn’t HAVE to dance, my husband really didn’t do much until he had several drink in him lol. But I wouldn’t take that activity away from other people just because FH doesn't want to dance because he can totally just mingle with guests instead!

I've never been to a wedding without dancing either. I assume there are some for religious reasons but if that isn't the case for you guys then, I think you should have it. When you invite people to your wedding you're hosts and have to consider your guest. Obviously you can't just say no to him but I think there should be dancing.

My FH cousin got married a few years ago they did their first dance only. She didn’t have a father daughter dance not a good relationship with him and there was no dancing for the rest of the reception. You don’t need to find things to entertain people. If you don’t want dancing then don’t have dancing people will talk and hang out.

We hate dancing and therefore we opted out. We did hire a few musicians to play background music. If someone wants to dance then they can, but we won't have any first dances, father/daughter dance or anything like that. Our wedding is super small though so I feel like we can get away with this.

I think if you are spending the money on a DJ, and having the traditional spotlight dances, it would only make sense to have dancing for your guests as well. I agree with your fiancé, that there should be no pressure placed on him to feel like he HAS to dance if he doesn’t want to. But, the same holds true in reverse- others should not be forced to not dance just because one person doesn’t want to. My brother is not a big dancer either, but he and his wife had a DJ and dancing for the guests. He said he never felt pressured to dance because there were so many people to talk to/catch up with, that there was hardly any time to dance anyway! And, after he had a few drinks in him, he willingly got on the dance floor for a few songs and had a blast!

The dj acts as a host and me to keep things moving. If you want no music my guess is people will leave. I’d be bored to death watching people drink. I would say no forced dancing and he doesn’t need to dance other than planned. But he can’t select music. You want all Taylor Swift - then play it.

Him not wanting to dance is fine a lil different but ok. Buuuut to not even have the option for your guests to loosen up at a wedding without dancing is unheard of. I'm sure your guests will want to dance...it's normal. Get the Dj entertain those guests.

Dancing was critical to our wedding plan. I've never been to a non-courthouse wedding that didn't have dancing - but that's the culture in my region.

You do need to entertain your guests in some way, so think about what you like to do!