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Are you having a wedding rehearsal?

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Are you having a wedding rehearsal? Does your officiant, or you venue, require it? How did you invite those involved in your wedding to the rehearsal?

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  • MrsRies&Love
    VIP May 2018
    MrsRies&Love ·
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    We're having a rehearsal, but nobody is requiring it. The night before we're meeting at the ceremony site to rehearse at 5pm, and then we reserved a room at a local yummy restaurant for 7:30pm. FH's parents are hosting the dinner, so they sent out invitations to everyone last week. I'm honestly almost more excited for this than I am for the actual wedding! Smiley xd

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  • J
    Expert May 2018
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    Someone has the venue booked that night for a wedding, we are doing a rehearsal the night before probably at a park (our venue is outside so we will use our imagination haha). And I believe we are doing pizza and beer for dinner. Everyone in the wedding party is invited and their spouse.
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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
    Mrs. Sponge ·
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    We're having a rehearsal but it's more an excuse to have a dinner with FH's family that are all flying up to MA from FL. It's not required by the venue or the officiant, we paid an extra fee with the officiant to do the rehearsal. My mom picked a nice restaurant in the area of the hotels to have the dinner in afterwards. She is paying so that we could invite FH's siblings and families, and grandparents and SOs because we couldn't afford that, we would only be able to afford bridal party, spouses, and parents.

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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
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    We're skipping the rehearsal and just doing dinner with our parents and wedding party and their SOs. Our officiant mentioned to us when we signed our contract that if we didn't want to do a rehearsal we didn't have to. He would just tell our small wedding party how it was going to work a few minutes before the ceremony.

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  • MrsHanlon
    Devoted July 2018
    MrsHanlon ·
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    We'll be having a rehearsal with our ceremony coordinator and the members of the bridal party the night before the wedding, our officiant is traveling to officiate the wedding the day of so he won't be present for the rehearsal. Not getting too stressed about it as rehearsals aren't really necessary IMO, doing it moreso for the comfort of the bridal party and to see what the decor/big picture will look like.

    We have a guest list of 45 people for the RDinner but our family is VERY close knit so we'll just be sending out invites via the wedding bridal party FB group. At some point I just had to stop stressing over formal invites to every little thing.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    We are having a rehearsal, we have a rather large bridal party & I want everyone to be comfortable the day of. I was recently in a wedding where there was no rehearsal and everyone kept getting confused, the recessional was a hot mess and the couples video showed it. I say do a quick rehearsal or at least communicate how you want your BM's and GM's to walk both up the aisle and back.

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  • QueenDavis
    Super October 2018
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    We are having a wedding rehearsal because I have a HUGE wedding party and Idk who is walking with who right now.

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  • MrsBanks
    Expert April 2018
    MrsBanks ·
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    Our rehearsal is a whole week before the wedding lol. That's the only the day they had available since there are other weddings the day of mine and won't have time. No one is requiring it except ME. I need everyone to know where to stand, what to do. Afterwards we might grab a bite to eat.
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  • Brianna
    VIP May 2018
    Brianna ·
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    We are having a rehearsal, but the venue/officiant requires it (Catholic church). Our families, bridal party, grandparents, and readers will all be invited, but I'm not sure how we will invite them. FH's family is in charge of booking the rehearsal dinner.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2018
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    We are having a super quick rehersal and then going to a restaurant across from the hotel block. This will only be for the wedding party and SOs plus a few. Then we have a welcome party for all the OOT guests because there are a lot.
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  • Pegs
    VIP July 2018
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    No rehearsal. We have to meet with our priest a week in advance to discuss the ceremony, but that's just for us. We're not having bridesmaids or groomsmen.

    We're having a welcome party though Friday night before the wedding on Saturday. It's for all of out out of town guests.

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  • Future Louie
    Super August 2019
    Future Louie ·
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    I mentioned to a friend that rehearsals weren't required and before I got to finish my sentence with "...but we will be having one" she interrupted and said our wedding was going to suck without a rehearsal. I slightly want to skip the rehearsal just to prove her wrong but the plan was always to have a rehearsal. *shrugs*

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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    Not required but, we will be having one. I mainly want to get timing down (to coordinate with our songs). We will have the parents and wedding party back to our place after for pizza and stuff.

    I've already mentioned it to everyone so they are aware but, I will be put an enclosure card with the details in the appropriate invitations when they go out.

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  • RZ_ToBe
    Master July 2018
    RZ_ToBe ·
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    My venue requires/has one set up for us. We don't have an exact time just yet, but I know it's the day before.

    I plan to use the rehersal to coordinate the wedding party, time music, and make sure our vows are in order. We will not have parents, though. Mainly because we are also doing a first look/wedding party photos the same day (and we all know how parents want to butt in on those things), but also to avoid some drama and issues on both sides.
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    We couldn't. Our BM was going to be flying in from Argentina, another groomsman was working a long shift for his residency, my MOH had just worked a 14 hour overnight, and another of my BMs scheduled a vacation 4 hours away AFTER I asked her and she drove in for the wedding the morning of. My DH did a fun little run through just he and I though.
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  • Michelle
    VIP September 2018
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    Yes we are having a rehersal and we let our party know that already. We also paid for their Friday night at the hotel, they have to pay Saturday. When it gets closer, invites/rsvps will go out. But we let them know well before that- basically if they had a role in the wedding, we strongly need them to be there Friday night as well. Each is allowed to bring their date Friday as well as Saturday and our wedding is on the lake so it’s a beautiful location with lots to do. I think it’s the only way to have everyone on the same page about what’s happening. I have been in a few weddings and only one did not do the rehersal and I had no idea what was happening or going on AT ALL. No one did lol it was embarrassing for us, let alone the bride and groom. That’s when I understood the importance of at least doing one walk through with everyone present
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  • rica
    VIP September 2018
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    Nobody is requiring a rehearsal but we think it's necessary. Our ceremony is in a public park, so there is a lot of flexibility with how we want to set up the ceremony. We at least need a chance to talk through the set up, and show it to those who have never been there before. My mom and I have been doing most of the planning for the ceremony, so I also want some fresh eyes to point out potential issues, or how they would be more comfortable.

    I am hoping to have a rehearsal dinner at the park, but if it doesn't work out we will do the same thing at home (backyard) - either at our house, FILs, or my dad's. The park has a volleyball net and an area for horseshoes, etc. I'd love to have a night to just hang out casually before the more formal wedding. I was thinking about getting pizzas, but depending on price, it might be easier to get some trays of food from one of the local restaurants. I believe we can pay a $50 permit to serve alcohol, in which case we would bring beer and wine, but nothing crazy the night before the wedding. We'll work out the details in the next few months.

    If we have everything set in stone by the time invitations go out, I'd like to include an insert about the rehearsal to those invited, but most people know about it already.


    ETA: I don't think the rehearsal is really necessary for the wedding party, but there aren't any other occasions where the bridesmaids and groomsmen will be together, so I think it will be nice for them to catch up before the big day. I do think the rehearsal will be helpful for FH and I, our parents (especially my dad who is walking me down the aisle), and the officiant. Probably helpful for the readers too.

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  • O
    Master October 2017
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    We didn't have a rehearsal. We all walked fine, and got to where we needed without one.
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  • Ginsteeca
    Expert June 2019
    Ginsteeca ·
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    Not required, but we're having a rehearsal given that our wedding party has 3 kids involved that will be clueless the day of the wedding if we don't help them out a little. At this point I expect it to be very informal with the the adult wedding party members and their families, our parents, our children, and our officiant and family (they're friends of ours), so 17 people total, 5 of which are kids. We'll do a dinner somewhere fun afterwards.

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  • Marie
    Devoted March 2018
    Marie ·
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    I have a very small wedding party but my H2B is very detailed he feels it necessary to have s rehearsal. Now we've added a rehearsal dinner! Wasn't planning on that either. But my family is coming and staying at his house, so I told him I have to feed them. So, we are having a rehearsal dinner! And it keeps growing. YIkeS!!😄
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